Besides traditional issues with love, sex, parenting, long distance relationships and break-ups, military couples have their own unique struggles to face each day. Long deployments, readjustment problems, life abroad and on base, lonely pregnancies and complicated divorces can make even routine communication seem like hard work. To give you and your partner some much needed support, we’ve generated this list of 50 relationships resources and websites. Turn to these sites whenever you need a boost or some real-life advice.

Relocating and Base Life

For tips on adjusting to a major move or dealing with deployment, check out these websites and articles.

1. Moving: Moving to a new country or city can be a strain on couples, especially if one of the spouses has to be relocated because of military service. Turn to this guide for advice and support.
2. Making a Move: Get more tips for preparing for a PCS from this page.
3. How to Inform Your Spouse that you do not Want to Attend a Military Heart Link Class: If you’re not enthusiastic about attending a military heart link class for couples counseling and advice, use this guide to address the subject.
4. Should You Stay or Go?: Deciding whether or not to follow your spouse to a new country can mean evaluating your entire relationship. This articles walks you through the process.
5. Managing Deployment: Learn about the experiences of other military families preparing to say goodbye to their loved ones in this guide.
6. Deployment and Marriage — Impact and Coping Tips: This site has tips for maintaining a long distance marriage, coping with separation during multiple deployments and more.
7. Military Wives’ 21 Best Tips for Dealing with a Spouse’s Deployment: Tips like "keep busy," "call on your friends," "remember your promise," and "keep your routine" will help you through the separation.

Family Support

New parents and pregnant wives and girlfriends can get support online anytime thanks to these resources.

8. New Parent Support: This guide has resources for military couples who are also new parents.
9. Family Support: Find emotional and practical support for everything from stressed out kids to keeping a positive attitude to understanding your benefits.
10. VAJoe Exclusive Military Spouse and Family Section: Comment on forums like "Military Marriage and Relationships" and "Military Marital & Relationship Difficulties" to find support whenever you need it.
11. Ideas for Deployment Pregnancies: This guide has tips for moms and dads who want to stay close during a pregnancy, even during a deployment.

Dating and Getting Married

What’s it really like to date a soldier or serviceman or woman? These sites provide lots of tips for starting a relationship with someone in the military and deciding whether or not to marry a soldier.

12. Getting Married: This article questions if getting married is the thing to do "before or after joining the military."
13. Military Dating and Finding Your True Love in Uniform: This article discusses military dating sites that connect you to servicemen in the Marines, Navy, Air Force, Army and Coast Guard.
14. Military Weddings and Honeymoons: Questions about getting married on base, military formal weddings, time off and more in this article.
15. Married to the Military: 20 Ways to Make it Work: If you’re unsure about taking your relationship with a military serviceman or women to the next level, read this article for tips on making a military marriage last.
16. Should I Marry a Soldier?: Marrying a soldier comes with a lot of sacrifice and stress. Learn about the real-life issues you can expect to confront if you marry into the military.
17. Valentine’s Day Love for Soldiers, Veterans and Other Warriors: Celebrating Valentine’s Day when your other half is on duty can be tough. Here are some ways to make the holiday special anyway.

Dual Military Couples

Relationships in which both members are in the military need constant nurturing and support. Get help for finding time to communicate and spend time with each other here.

18. Married Military Couples: Read first-hand accounts of real-life military couples to see how they cope with their schedules and anxieties.
19. Married to the Military: Get advice on dealing with long separations, learning from each other and raising a family.
20. For Better or Worse: How a Dual-Military Couple Manages Their Personal and Professional Life: Learn how this dual military couple keeps it together despite separation, grueling training and schedules, and other obstacles.

Life at Home

From readjustment counseling to life as a lonely army wife, these articles and resources focus on how to military couples and spouses deal with their relationships at home.

21. Readjustment Counseling: This site is for soldiers who are returning home from combat and who want help readjusting to their civilian relationships and family life.
22. My Married Yet Strangely Single Life as an Army Wife: In this article, an army wife discusses the six Fs that "keep [her] going:" faith, family, friends, future, funny bones and fitness.
23. Domestic Abuse: This page on the Military Homefront website features a hotline for domestic abuse, as well as military-specific benefits for victims of domestic abuse.
24. Strong Bonds and Better Relationships: This article follows the story of a real-life couple that encountered problems reuniting after a tour of duty in Iraq.
25. Your Beloved Soldier is Coming Home - Now What?: After the excitement settles over expecting the return of your military spouse, you need to address issues like post-war trauma, guilt, depression, an older child and more.
26. Homecoming Tips for Military Couples: Tips like "accept that your partner may be different" and "tone down your fantasies" are helpful tips for excited couples.
27. Separated by War: This article tracks four couples and their struggles with separation during the Iraq war.
28. Military Spouse Support: If you want some personalized advice for coping with separation or any other military relationship problem, e-mail the Hooah Wife and Friends blog here.
29. Julie Anna Infantry Wife: Read about Julie Anna’s attempts to find meaning and energy in her home life while her husband is away in the Army.

Divorce, Abuse and Other Issues

Unfortunately, military couples sometimes experience abuse, divorce and infidelity. Discover ways to cope with these issues in this list.

30. Military and Divorce: Refer to this site for help identifying triggers that can result in divorce in military couples and for resources for hiring an attorney, getting benefits and more.
31. Family Advocacy: Learn how to prevent and deal with spousal and child abuse in your military family here.
32. Divorce Tips for Military Couples: This guide helps military couples get through a divorce amicably and responsibly.
33. Military Divorce and Separation Issues: This site provides links to military divorce prevention, divorce FAQs, divorce-related legal issues by state, and more.
34. Adultery in the Military: This website decodes adultery in the military, including legal issues and specific cases.
35. Military Spouses and Divorce: This article features "five tips for military spouses who may be thinking about divorce."
36. When Love is a Battlefield: Military couples going through a divorce can turn to this guide for financial and familial advice.

Long Distance Relationships

Military couples know that their long distance relationships are a lot harder to maintain than traditional long distance loves. These articles and sites are full of advice, though, for your specific questions and situations.

37. How to Get Close When You are Far Apart: Tips like not relying on e-mail and making plans together despite your distance can help ease the separation.
38. Infidelity on the Homefront: Read the advice given to a young military wife having trouble staying loyal to her army husband.
39. Long Distance Relationships and the Military: This author suggests setting up a regular schedule for communicating, making use of technology and keeping a journal to cope with a long distance military relationship.
40. Military Wife Tips: Keeping Any Long Distance Relationship Alive: This detailed article is designed to give support to military couples who spend a lot of time apart.
41. Long Distance Relationships: Check out this page of resources for couples in LDRs, or long distance relationships.

Miscellaneous Resources

From online radio stations to hotline information to tried and true relationship tips, this list features even more resources to help you along.

42. Military OneSource: This support center has a 24/7 hotline and an entire section devoted to parenting and relationships advice for military couples.
43. CincHouse.com: This "community of military wives and women in uniform" includes great articles for nurturing relationships and family life.
44. Army Wife Talk Radio: This clever website and online radio includes family and relationship advice and tips.
45. Military Couples Fight to Preserve Home Front: This news article also provides links and advice for military couples who have to deal with separation, uncertainty, infidelity, and financial issues.
46. Military Spouse Talk Radio: Turn to this online radio show for stories, advice, and more support.
47. Spouse Buzz: This site is "where military spouses connect" to talk about communication, marriage, deployment and more.
48. Loving a Marine: This post includes poems and stories about Marine wives and their struggles.
49. Goodbye Always Seems to be the Hardest Word: Get tips on saying goodbye to your other half when he or she leaves on a mission.
50. Military Relationships: Keeping it Together: This how-to guide has plenty of "tips and ideas for keeping it together," including Internet rendezvous, surprise phone calls and more.

No matter how perfect you may think you are, the fact this there’s always some small way you can improve upon yourself. Whether it’s broadening your knowledge or reducing your impact on the earth, there are seemingly endless little things you can do to make a change for the better. Here, we’ll discuss 100 of these steps, and how you can go about doing them.

Health

Good health is the foundation of a good life, so make these improvements, and they’ll resonate out to the rest of your life.

1. Eat breakfast every morning: Eating breakfast is important for your health and mental power, supplying essential vitamins, minerals, and energy for your day.
2. Get a good night’s rest: You just can’t have a happy and productive life if you’re tired all of the time, so get some quality shut eye.
3. Drink water: Step up your water intake to lose weight, feel better, and improve your skin.
4. Eat slowly: Slow down when you eat, and you’ll find that you consume less while still feeling satisfied.
5. Cut down on junk food: Junk food has a nasty way of bringing your health down, so avoid it whenever possible, opting instead for healthy food like fresh fruits and vegetables.
6. Practice good dental hygiene: Researchers have found that dental hygiene is important for more than cosmetic reasons-it can help you chew food and even avoid heart disease.
7. Drink tea: Be sure to check out the powerhouse of benefits that tea can deliver, which includes improved memory and prevention of ills such as cavities, cancer, and heart disease.
8. Get some exercise: Whether you need to lose weight or not, exercise will have a positive effect on your overall health and quality of life.
9. Improve your energy: If you’re feeling sluggish all day, chances are you’re just not going to feel good about yourself. So take a few steps to boost your energy, and you’ll be better in your daily life.
10. Intensify your workouts: Researchers have found that by doing more intense workouts, you can enjoy similar benefits that you would with a more relaxed workout for a longer period of time.
11. Enjoy fish a few times a week: Eat fish, and you’ll get a serving of Omega-3 fatty acids, which can help reduce heart disease.
12. Wear better shoes: Don’t torture your toes with restrictive shoes all the time-limit the amount of time you spend in uncomfortable shoes.
13. Protect your skin: Stay out of the sun to avoid skin damage, or use sunblock to help.
14. Eat at home: It’s easier and cheaper to prepare healthy foods on your own at home, and skillfully cooking a meal is sure to impress just about anyone.
15. Get tested for prediabetes: Diabetes is a disease that many Americans are susceptible to, and by discovering it early on you can prevent it or lessen its impact.
16. Take a daily walk: Get a little bit of movement and clear your mind with a walk every day.
17. Lose weight: One of the best things you can do for your health and overall quality of life is to shed a few pounds.

Social

Take these steps to change your social life for the better.

18. Join a book club: Get some social interaction while improving your knowledge with a book club.
19. Get out of the house: Believe it or not, the world just isn’t going to come to you. You’ve got to get out of your “zone” for social interaction.
20. Volunteer: For a rewarding social experience, look into volunteer opportunities.
21. Ignore minor irritations: Whether it’s some jerk in traffic, or incessant Facebook application requests, some things just aren’t worth dealing with.
22. Start a blog: Spark an online discussion and network with new people through a blog.
23. Talk to strangers: Don’t hesitate to spark a conversation with someone you don’t know-you just might enjoy yourself, or even make a new friend.
24. Don’t stereotype or label people: Avoid dismissing people based on factors you don’t fully understand, and you may find that they have something to offer you.
25. Call old friends: You’d be surprised how many people would be overjoyed to hear from you, especially if it’s been a while since you’ve seen them.
26. Go to church: Make new friends and get in touch with your spiritual side at church or temple.
27. Host a party: Spend some time with good friends and enjoy yourself at home by inviting others over for a party.
28. Enjoy a hobby: Having a regular, relaxing activity will bring you joy.
29. Join a club: Whether you’re into board games or photography, there’s a group out there for you.

Emotional

Improve your emotional life with these simple strategies.

30. Make an effort to be happy: Whether you actually feel happy or not, make it a point to attempt happiness. It will help you feel better, as well as others around you.
31. Consider religion: If you’re not a spiritual person, consider becoming more involved with religion to improve your emotional well-being.
32. Stop taking things personally: Although it may seem to the contrary, know that not everyone is out to make your life harder.
33. Be optimistic: Put a positive spin on things and feel better about the future.
34. Know when to lose sleep: Sometimes, you have more important things to do than sleep, but they key is knowing when that should happen.
35. Step out of your comfort zone: Make it a point to step out of your comfort zone once in awhile. It’s a great way to advance yourself.
36. Get rid of ill-fitting clothing: Clothes that don’t fit right will just make you look bad and feel worse about yourself. If you love a piece, but it just doesn’t look good, consider getting it tailored.
37. Spend time with a child: Look at the world through a child’s eyes and get inspired. You’ll learn to appreciate simple things and see life with excitement.
38. Pamper yourself: Take care of yourself, whether that means getting a pint of ice cream now and then, or just getting a spa treatment.
39. Celebrate your successes: When you’ve accomplished something great, take a moment to feel good about it!
40. Quit your technology addiction: Although you may love your BlackBerry, you’ll feel a whole lot better if you just step away from the screen for a while.
41. Set goals: By setting goals, you’ll give yourself something to strive for and look forward to.
42. Feel good about yourself: Make a decision to improve your self-confidence, and you’ll feel better. Others will notice it, too.
43. Be thankful: Every now and then, take some time to acknowledge all of the good things you have in your life, big and small.
44. Cut yourself some slack: Avoid inventing your own impossible, stringent rules that you have to stick to-they’ll only make you feel nervous and guilty.
45. Let go of the past: Don’t hold grudges-let go, and you’ll free up emotional space.
46. Don’t be dramatic: Stop inflating small problems, or you’ll make yourself more anxious than you need to be.
47. Express yourself: Let your emotions come out through art, writing, or other forms of expression.
48. Meditate: Take some time out every day to have an inner dialogue with yourself.

Financial

Make these changes to improve your life’s financial outlook.

49. Pay off debt: Nothing will improve your finances better than simply getting rid of debt.
50. Build an emergency fund: Keep an emergency fund to save yourself from plummeting into the red when something pops up, and you’ll be much more secure.
51. Track your spending: At some point in their lives, nearly everyone has wondered where all their money goes. Try this exercise to finally get to the bottom of it, and identify spots where your money could be better spent.
52. Be frugal: Embrace frugality in your life, and you’ll save money while living more simply.
53. Make extra payments: Pay off mortgage and other large debts early, and you’ll take a load off.
54. Diversify your income: Provide yourself with some financial security by finding multiple sources of income.
55. Save: The concept is simple-save money, and you’ll have more financial power to do the things you’d like to do.
56. Eat at home more often: Eating out all the time may be fun, but preparing meals at home is a better financial strategy.
57. Invest: Investing is not only fun, it’s an excellent way to make your money grow.
58. Set a goal: Give yourself a financial goal to achieve, whether it’s saving for a particular item, or doubling your investments.
59. Save for retirement: Don’t give your future self a huge mess to take care of-save now, and you’ll enjoy it later.

Mental

Improve your mind by taking these simple steps.

60. Go back to school: Continuing your education does not have to be a complicated endeavor. Take an online class, or just a weekend seminar.
61. Read classic books: Improve your mind by finally picking up all those books you were supposed to read in school.
62. Plan: Always have a plan for your life, so you’ll know what you’re working toward.
63. Quit procrastinating: Resolve to get moving, and you’ll find that you have much more time than you originally realized.
64. Get inspired by a book: Read a book that will help you spark positive changes in your life.
65. Learn from your mistakes: Don’t let mistakes get you down. Instead, consider what you did wrong, and how you can avoid doing so again in the future.
66. Stop worrying: Let go of worry, and know that the future will come no matter what you do about it.
67. Learn to play a musical instrument: Pick up a guitar, or even a harp, to improve your mental capacity and have something fun to do.
68. Work to your own advantage: Improve upon what you can, and let the rest fall away.
69. Think slowly: Instead of jumping to conclusions, carefully calculate what a situation means. Doing so can help you save relationships that might be damaged by rash thinking
70. Participate in a debate: Have a rational discussion with someone of similar intellect to improve your knowledge.
71. Learn a new language: Broaden your horizons by learning how to speak a new language.
72. Visit Wikipedia: Spend some time on Wikipedia learning lots of interesting facts you’ve never realized before.

Habits

Make these changes in your daily life to improve upon yourself.

73. Quit smoking: It’s the single most important thing you can do for your health, appearance, and energy. You’ll smell better, too.
74. Wake up early: Be an early riser, and you’ll find that you have more time to get things done.
75. Spend more time outside: Head outside to become more active and enjoy the world around you.
76. Be organized: Make things easier on yourself by living a more organized life.

At Work

You spend so much time at work, but probably don’t often consider how you can improve upon this important facet of your life. Take these steps to make things just a little bit better.

77. Make friends with your coworkers: One of the easiest and most important things you can do to improve your career is to practice inner networking. Socialize with your coworkers, and they’ll be more willing to help you when you need it.
78. Improve your writing skills: If you improve upon your writing skills, you’ll instantly sound more intelligent and persuasive.
79. Collaborate: Don’t go it alone-ask for help, and give help in return.
80. Keep your inbox empty: Reduce anxiety and simplify by clearing out your inbox as much as you can.
81. Leave work at the door: Don’t bring work home with you, or you’ll stress yourself out at home.
82. Join a professional association: Network with others in your field for fun and career advancement.
83. Ask for a raise: Simply asking for a raise you deserve is a no-brainer way to feel better about work and your paycheck.
84. Improve your resume: If you’re not happy with your job, give your resume a facelift and consider seeking a new position.
85. Improve your system: If you’ve got a messy desk, or generally lead a disorganized work life, take charge by reorganizing.
86. Start your own business: One of the best ways to improve your career is to go into business for yourself.

In Your Community

Getting involved in your community is a great way to improve upon your life. Try these methods for getting out there.

87. Vote: Impact your community’s future by participating in the election of officials.
88. Donate unused items: Instead of holding a garage sale, pass your old items on to people who need them-like books to schools, and clothing to shelters.
89. Support charitable endeavors: Whether it’s with money or time, do what you can to help out charities in your community.
90. Be a coach: Offer to coach a youth sport, and you’ll shape young lives while having fun.
91. Visit your local library: Take advantage of your community’s library to both save money and broaden your mind.

In the Environment

An excellent way to improve upon yourself is to reduce the negative impact you have on the world. Take these steps to get greener and change your life for the better.

92. Work to reduce your carbon emissions: Find out about the many things you can do to help cut your carbon emissions, and then take action on them.
93. Improve your gas mileage: Drive more slowly and coast as much as you can to improve your gas mileage.
94. Turn off the lights: Cut your waste and energy bill by turning off your lights whenever you don’t need them.
95. Get a reusable water bottle: Keep plastic water bottles out of our landfills by getting a container you can use over and over again.
96. Reduce your trash: Take steps to cut down on the waste you put in landfills.
97. Buy local and organic food: Support your health and local farmer by purchasing local, organic produce.
98. Adjust your thermostat: Let your heater and AC take a small break by adjusting your thermostat to reduce waste.
99. Stop using plastic bags: Quit using plastic bags, and you’ll both reduce your impact and save animals.
100. Take shorter showers: Save a precious resource by reducing the amount of water you use in your daily shower.

If going out to a smoke-filled bar night after night to meet singles doesn’t appeal to you, there are lots of other options out there for finding a date. Meeting up and hooking up doesn’t have to include sketchy rendezvous or even a night-owl lifestyle. This list will help healthy and active singles connect with each other at sporting events, during adventurous vacations and even online.

Everyday Locations

From the grocery store to the gym, here are several ways you can bump into your future honey at anytime during the day.

1. At the gym: The gym is full of people interested in maintaining a healthy and active lifestyle, as well as individuals looking to surround themselves with lots of other people. Those who make the time and feel confident enough to go to the gym and work out in front of other people are probably more receptive to making new friends too.
2. The park: Camp out by the jogging trails at your city’s park to scope out all the hotties running by.
3. The dentist: You don’t have to have a serious oral hygiene problem to go to the dentist. Make an appointment to get your teeth cleaned, and you’ll bump into lots of other health-minded individuals who value hygiene, fresh breath and preventative care.
4. Religious settings: Join a group at a church or temple. Most religious centers sponsor groups just for singles, and you’ll meet people who care about their spiritual and mental health.
5. Volunteer projects: Get involved with a charity that does a lot of physical work, like Habitat for Humanity’s house building program, or a group that educates the public on the dangers of drug abuse. If they’re involved in the fight against drugs or alcohol, then they’re probably clean too.
6. Take lessons: Sign up for an adult dance class or swimming lessons. You’ll feel like you’re part of a group and will get the chance to socialize before and after class.
7. Environmental groups: Those choosing to lead a “green” lifestyle generally take good care of themselves, as well as the planet. They’re also more in tune with nature and are more likely to be interested in outdoor activities.
8. Whole Foods: Whole Foods is a favorite spot to shop for health nuts. You’ll probably also find singles sitting at tables drinking coffee, reading the paper and chomping on granola.
9. Farmer’s markets: Local farmer’s markets attract a variety of singles, including environmentally-conscious people, healthy eaters, community advocates and those interested in nature and the outdoors.
10. By the water: Bodies of water typically bring together socially-minded people who enjoy the outdoors. Join up with others by going swimming, renting a paddle boat or canoe, fishing, water skiing or even hosting a (healthy) bar-b-que.
11. Intramural and club sports: Even if you haven’t played in years, join an intramural team or sign up to be their water boy (or girl) to meet lots of other healthy, active singles.

Special Events

Hang out at special athletic events like city marathons to meet like-minded singles.

1. Marathon or races: Whether it’s a race for charity or a city-wide marathon, these types of events attract large crowds of athletes at all levels.
2. Sports events: While major league football and hockey games can be full of drunk, disorderly fans, tennis matches and other, more low-key sports events attract true lovers of the game.
3. Competitions: Enter yourself into or just attend a city or county competition for lifeguards, firefighters, pet trainers or any other group. Often, these events have games, food and music.
4. The Olympics: Getting a ticket might require a big investment, but you’ll be surrounded by athletes from all over the world, as well as hardcore fans and plenty of singles looking for a fun time while on vacation.
5. Singles Yoga: This company welcomes individuals to learn and practice yoga with each other while building a “professional community for singles who are into health and wellness and meeting like minded people.” The group is located in Canada, but anyone can network with the students and teachers online on Facebook, MySpace or Meetup.

Healthiest Cities

If you’re serious about joining a community that values health, diet and fitness as much as you do, consider moving to one of these cities, all considered to be extremely healthy.

1. San Francisco: In 2007, San Francisco was named the city with the most healthy singles by Match.com.
2. Los Angeles: In the same study conducted by Match.com, Los Angeles ranked number two on the list of cities “where you will find singles hitting the gym.” LA is also close to beautiful beaches, perfect sites for playing volleyball, surfing or rollerblading.
3. Seattle: Seattle’s proximity to the mountains, ocean and rainforest give singles in the area lots of options for outdoor activities. The city also placed 3rd on Match.com’s “Top Cities for Vegetarian Lovers” list and fifth on the “Top Cities for the Non-Smoker” list.
4. San Jose: San Jose, CA is ranked number one on Sperling’s “Top 10 Cities with Highest Healthiest Cities Scores.”
5. Washington, D.C.: The U.S. capitol has the highest Mental Wellness score, as designated by Sperling’s list.
6. Austin, TX: This Texan city is home to lots of outdoor enthusiasts and environmentally-conscious singles. Austin is also close to the beautiful Texas Hill Country and several lakes and rivers.
7. Portland, OR: Portland was ranked in the number 2 spot on Cooking Light’s list of the cities where people eat right, exercise and “live well.” Portland also features 277 miles of bike paths, over 200 parks, and lots of hiking trails and other outdoor activities.
8. Calgary: Calgary, Canada, was named “the world’s best city when it comes to healthy living” in 2004. The city offers many outdoor activities for visitors, including camping, bike riding and more.

Vacation Ideas

Take a vacation to indulge your adventure-seeking side and to join up with fun, active singles you wouldn’t normally meet at home.

1. Aspen, CO: This ski resort town is popular with people of all ages, but especially young singles. Visit this website for information on annual events, group rates and more.
2. Dude Ranch: Head out to a dude ranch for old timey country fun. Other visitors will be up for the adventure and fit enough to ride horses and go on hiking trails.
3. Whitewater Rafting: Research whitewater rafting vacations, which will introduce you to extreme water sports and groups of energetic travelers.
4. Vegetarian Vacation: There are lots of travel options out there for vegetarians who want to experience a true “veggie holiday.” While you’re out in nature bike riding, camping or taking a llama trekking tour, you’ll meet other active vegetarians.
5. Health spas: Nurture your mental and spiritual health at a nature spa, where you can meet others during community events, outdoor activities and more.
6. Culinary vacations: Learn about other cultures while you travel with a group to places like Provence, France, where you’ll learn new recipes and healthy lifestyle tips.
7. Wine country bike tour: Take a wine tour through California’s Sonoma and Napa valleys. You’ll meet lots of fun singles and won’t feel too guilty about your indulgence if you travel by bike.
8. Wild Women Expeditions: Wild Women Expeditions is a Canadian “outdoor adventure company for women” that features special lesbian-friendly vacations. Trips include hiking, paddling, fly fishing, cycling and more.
9. Special singles vacations: Many travel companies like Singles Travel International offer or specialize in organizing vacations just for singles. Book an Alaskan cruise or a mountain climbing trip to Peru to meet other active singles.
10. The Caribbean: The Caribbean isn’t just for honeymooners. Trips like this one to the British Virgin Islands are great for outdoor-minded individuals who want to sail, go snorkeling, water skiing and meet adventure-seeking singles in a tropical location.
11. Hawaii: Another popular honeymoon spot, Hawaii is also a paradise for singles. Honolulu is considered one of the healthiest cities in the world, and visitors can take advantage of the many natural resources for healthy eating, surfing, hiking, camping, visiting health spas and much more.

Online Networking

These online networking sites will connect you to singles and people who like maintaining a healthy, active lifestyle. Join one to learn about social and athletic events in your area, meet up with singles during a trip or just socialize online.

1. Meetup: This popular site allows members to find like-minded friends based on geography and interest, including sports, travel and health and wellness.
2. Care2: Get advice on planning a green vacation from the members of Care2, a social networking site all about becoming an advocate for protecting the environment.
3. OKCupid: This online dating site is free to use and lets users customize the way they search for potential dates.
4. OUTeverywhere: OUTeverywhere is a gay social network with chat forums on topics like climate change, rugby, wine, fitness, economics, travel and more.
5. passportstamp: Network with other travelers, and organize a meet up during your next vacation to introduce yourself in person.
6. Sportsvite: Joing Sportsvite to learn about sports events and teams you can join in your city. You can also play games and manage teams online.
7. TravBuddy: Stay connected when you travel by logging in to TravBuddy. You can meet other travelers when you’re abroad, post pictures of your vacation and get tips on hotel stays, plane tickets and more.
8. WAYN: WAYN stands for Where Are You Now? Use the site to connect with other travelers and friends when you’re on vacation.
9. Match.com: This popular online dating site lets you scope out member profiles before meeting them in person.
10. eHarmony: eHarmony is another online portal for meeting singles. Screen potential dates to find out their hobbies, health habits and more.
11. Fitness Singles: This site is the “fastest-growing online dating community for sports and fitness enthusiasts.” Post a free profile and connect with singles interested in racquetball, skydiving, sea kayaking, tennis, skiing, baseball, kickboxing, Pilates and other adventures.
12. Active.com: This site publishes articles and blogs, sponsors discussions and chats and provides resources for active individuals, including singles. Search topics like cycling, football, softball, triathlon and more.

Bonus opportunities

For the truly devoted, here are a few more bonus opportunities that will help you meet fun loving singles.

1. Host a cooking class: Advertise a free cooking class for healthy eaters. Open up your own home or see if you can access a kitchen at the YMCA or other public center.
2. Sponsor a weekend getaway: Organize a weekend camping trip or bike tour with your friends. Ask them to invite a person you don’t know to include more people and increase your chances of making a love connection.
3. Join an OREC group: Colleges usually sponsor lots of OREC opportunities for students, but if you’re not eligible to join, start your own or look for community-wide clubs that go on day or weekend excursions.

Getting creative in the bedroom isn’t just for Valentine’s Day or honeymoons. If you want to spice up your sex life, you’ll need to lose your inhibitions and experiment with props, positions and different environments all year round. From the vault of articles at Cosmopolitan online to blog posts, games and illustrated guides from Men’s Health, Oprah and more, use these 50 resources to your — and your partner’s — advantage.

Getting Fired Up

Sometimes getting started is the hardest part. Learn how to break the ice, lose your inhibitions and jump start your libido by following this advice.

1. How Do I Lose My Sexual Inhibitions?: Oprah’s Relationships page offers advice from Elle magazine columnist E. Jean Carroll. She recommends having a “goddess day,” using blindfolds and role playing.
2. Strip Her Inhibitions: Men’s Health publishes this guide to help men put their partners’ nerves at ease and help them get in the game.
3. Get in the Mood for Love: This interactive guide offers up tips like adding a mirror to the bedroom, taking advantage of mood lighting and more to help lovers get in the mood.
4. Feel in the Mood for Sex (Even When You’re Stressed) Learn tricks for getting aroused even when you’re stressed out.
5. Have Sex for Dessert: This clever “menu” is full of foods that act as aphrodisiacs, including red wine, shrimp cocktail, and file mignon.
6. Self Esteem, Hot Sex & Peace on the Planet Podcast with Dr. Judy Kuriansky: Watch this podcast to learn how to use Kama Sutra energy to ease stress, raise your libido, and banish “the four uglies:” shame, embarrassment, guilt and fear.
7. Top 10 Natural Ways to Boost Libido: Discovery Health lists techniques like taking gingko biloba and experimenting with massage to boost libido.
8. Recharge Your Sex Life!: Read this article from Kaboose to find out how you can get more creative and spice up your sex life…even if you’re a busy parent on the go.
9. Ways to Enjoy Sex While Helping Your Back: Having a bad back isn’t a valid excuse for skipping sex. Doing yoga with your partner and getting massages will help you get in the mood.
10. Sex Over 50: Keeping Your Sex Life Fun and Active: If you’re over 50, read this guide to help get you find new ways to experiment with sex.

Pleasing Her

Check out these resources for tips and tricks that will really impress your woman.

11. How to Get Her in the Mood for Sex: Learn new ways to arouse your woman with this detailed guide.
12. 15 Sex Tips from Women: Sexually satisfied women let guys know what works in the bedroom.
13. A Man’s Guide to Knowing Her Sweet Spots: Really get to know your partner’s body by fully understanding a woman’s sensitive spots and how to work them.
14. What Your Woman Wants in Bed: Learn new foreplay techniques and more when you check out this sexy article.
15. Drive Your Woman Wild: Tips like “communicate” and “take your time” will make you a better lover.
16. Give a Sensual Massage: This very detailed guide gives directions for creating the mood for massage, mixing your own massage oils and giving your partner a massage she’ll never forget.
17. 10 Foreplay Tips: How to Better Satisfy a Woman in the Bedroom: The title of this piece speaks for itself. Read on for tips like “take your time before undressing her” and more.
18. 14 Oral Sex Tips: If you want to mix things up in the bedroom, start by mastering these tips.
19. Romantic Ideas: Old-fashioned romance goes a long way. Get simple but effective tips here.
20. Signs She’s Faking It: Find out for sure whether or not your partner is faking the big O by evaluating these signs.

Pleasing Him

It’s not just about the woman! Wow your man with these fun, sexy tricks.

21. 4 Sex Secrets That Keep Any Guy Interested: iVillage’s Michael Jeffrey lists four sexy “musts” that teach women to please their men in bed.
22. His 9 Pleasure Triggers: Find out a man’s nine pleasure points by checking out this hot resource.
23. Planning a Hot Night: Seduce your man by teasing his senses.
24. Striptease 101: Have fun planning out your outfit, using props and choreographing a sexy little dance when you read this article.
25. The Oral Factor: Women wanting oral sex tips to please their man can find them here.
26. Sex Tips from Guys: Find out what real guys have to say about their favorite off-the-wall sex experiences here.
27. 3 Surefire Ways to Please a Man in Bed: iVillage lists dirty talk, using a hands-on approach, and going oral as their top three tips.
28. Guys Tell All: Learn about sex from a guy’s perspective by doing some research on this site.
29. Foreplay for Men: Men need foreplay too. Check out this guide for help turning on your man.
30. 10 Ways to Have Fun With Your Boyfriend–If you Stay Indoors: If you’re sick of watching TV, try out these creative ways to inspire romance.

Creative Ideas

From kinky sex to living out your partner’s fantasies, these ideas inspire creativity.

31. Cosmo’s Most Creative Sex Positions Ever: From the “Kitchen Encounter” to “On the Level,” these creative positions will quickly become new favorites.
32. The Art of Kinky Sex: Try out these simple little tips to make a romp in the bedroom full of unexpected surprises.
33. The Art of Role Playing: Get ideas for role playing scenarios here.
34. Living Out the Top 3 Female Fantasies: If your love life is stuck in a rut, try acting out one of these sexy fantasies in the bedroom.
35. 10 New Places to Have Sex: Who says you have to have sex in the bedroom? Try out some of these secretive and taboo hot spots for a change.
36. Surprise Sexy Scenarios: From playing hide and seek to surprising your partner with a mid-dinner snack, you’ll find sexy little inspirations here.
37. How to Spice Up Your Sex Life: Forbes’ list of the thirteen steps to better sex includes new drugs, exercise, gene therapy and other innovative ideas.
38. Play strip anything: If you’re no good at poker or don’t have any cards, turn any chore or activity into a game…that ends up with at least one of you naked.
39. Creative Passion: This article is meant for women, but anyone can use these sex tips to wow their partner in bed…or in the rain…or anywhere else.
40. Watch a sexy movie with your partner: If you’re squeamish, try something R- or PG-13 rated. Watching a steamy movie will get you in the mood, and you can reenact the scenes later, play by play.

Go-to Guides

Use this list to connect to expert advice, ultimate how-tos and online archives full of ideas and instruction that will benefit your performance in the bedroom.

41. Spice up your sex life: Doctor G. gives the Miami Herald ten tips for spicing up your sex life, from flirting with your partner to sleeping naked.
42. Kama Sutra Positions: This illustrated guide will introduce you and your partner to new, satisfying sexual positions.
43. How to Be a More Sensual Couple: This Reader’s Digest article has a lot of great advice for couples who want to add more passion to their lives.
44. Cosmo’s 20 Favorite Sex Tips Ever: Get tips for creative foreplay, sensual massages and more here.
45. Secrets to a Long and Happy Sex Life: Just because you’re not in your 20s and 30s anymore doesn’t mean you can’t have a fulfilling sex life. This article from Time gives tips to keep the passion alive.
46. 18 Simple Rules for Becoming a Better Kisser: Even if you think you’re already a good kisser, review this list to make sure you’re puckering up right.
47. Cosmopolitan Sex and Love: Visit Cosmopolitan’s online website for sex tips, new positions, romance quizzes and more.
48. Men’s Health: Men’s Health online has “tons of cool stuff” that guys need to know about sex. Watch relationship videos, read about threesomes and check out the interactive “Position Master.”
49. Tantric Sex: This guide to tantric sex from the Discovery Health website will take your pleasure to new heights.
50. AskMen.com: This website has lots of resources and tips for men wanting to learn more about sex and improve their own sexual techniques and experiences.