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May 21st, 2008

Top 10 Beautiful Celebrity Couples

Isn’t it enough to be ridiculously good looking, rich and famous? To be frank, no, it’s not. You also have to be in a relationship with a ridiculously good looking star. Flaunting that much beauty at movie premieres, sports games, and beach retreats just isn’t fair to the rest of us…but of course, we don’t mind looking. Check out our list of the top 10 (current) beautiful celebrity couples. Which will last longer: their looks or the relationship?

Angelina Jolie and Brad Pitt: Say what you want about the Jennifer Aniston break up, the old relationship to Billy Bob and the nonstop baby business, but Angelina Jolie, 32, and Brad Pitt, 44, are still gorgeous after all these years. What’s the best feature we think they have in common: their lips. And all that goodwill and humanitarian work too, of course.
Jada Pinkett-Smith and Will Smith: The Smiths have been married since New Year’s Eve in 1997, and are often considered to be a solid Hollywood couple. They both acknowledge that it takes a lot of hard work to have a successful marriage, and that they can be attracted to other people. Will has been ranked as one of People Magazine’s Sexiest Men Alive, and Jada is certainly one of our picks for most beautiful women.
Halle Berry and Gabriel Aubry: Hardest question ever: who is more beautiful, Halle Berry or Gabriel Aubry? After a string of bad and abusive relationships, Halle Berry has finally been dating someone worth her time. Gabriel Aubry has been with the Oscar-winning actress since early 2006, and in March 2008, the couple welcomed their baby daughter, Nahla. Halle and Gabriel are a more low-key Hollywood couple, despite Halle’s position as a former beauty queen, an Academy Award winner, and one of the most beautiful women in the world. We just can’t wait to see what baby Nahla looks like with parents like these.
Anna Kournikova and Enrique Iglesias: This couple combines the best of Russian and Spanish genetics to make everyone else in the world extremely jealous. Kournikova and Iglesias have been together since 2002, and not much has changed since then. Anna’s still got that beautiful blonde hair, Enrique still makes women around the world scream with his lean physique and pretty boy face. But will they ever get married? People reports that Anna says she will never get married, despite Enrique’s proposals.
Gisele Bundchen and Tom Brady: When Victoria’s Secret supermodel started dating Patriots quarterback Tom Brady in late 2006, everyone started speculating about the scandal surrounding his new love just after breaking up with his pregnant ex-girlfriend, Bridget Moynahan. But all scandals aside, who can deny the beauty of Gisele Bundchen, the Brazilian supermodel and arguably sexiest woman alive, and the all-American features of Tom Brady? It seems like Gisele has even started sharing model tips with her boyfriend, since Tom recently snagged a Stetson campaign.
Miranda Kerr and Orlando Bloom: Miranda Kerr is a successful runway model and Victoria’s Secret Angel. The young Australian, 25, is known for her bright blue-ish green eyes, dark hair, dimples, and cheery smile. Now, though, she is getting even more attention for her relationship with Lord of the Rings and Pirates of the Carribean star Orlando Bloom, whose brooding dark looks mask his supposedly "sweetheart" charms.
Bar Refaeli and Leonardo DiCaprio: On-again, off-again couple Leonardo DiCaprio and Israeli model Bar Refaeli actually look kind of similar, when Leo’s clean shaven and has ditched his baseball cap. They both have sandy colored hair, thin but beautiful lips, and piercing, hooded green eyes. Bar evidently doesn’t believe in marriage, so we’ll just have to see how long Leo can hold on.
Demi Moore and Ashton Kutcher: When Demi and Ashton got together, all anyone wanted to talk about was the age difference, and how cool it was that Demi got to snag herself a young, hot stud. But we just couldn’t stop trying to figure out who was more beautiful: Eyes: Ashton ties with Demi; Hair: Ashton ties with Demi: Body: Ashton ties with Demi; Jaw line: Ashton and Demi. It’s no wonder they’re so perfect for each other!
Penelope Cruz and Javier Bardem: We all thought that Javier Bardem was weirdly hot with that mushroom hairstyle in No Country for Old Men and as Brother Lorenzo in Goya’s Ghosts. But we have to thank Penelope Cruz for bringing her new man out to the beaches so we could get a real look at what was underneath those costumes. And what do we have to say about Penelope? Only that she’s probably the most stunningly gorgeous creature on the planet. Ever.
Jessica Alba and Cash Warren: Jessica Alba has been ranked as the Sexiest Woman Alive by FHM and has been on the cover of numerous magazines like Playboy, Elle and others. Alba is of Mexican, French and Danish descent and makes men drool with her sexy pout, beautiful brown eyes and smooth skin. Her fiance, Cash Warren, also has seriously beautiful eyes and an adorable smile, so we know that their new baby, expected in the spring or summer of 2008, is going to be gorgeous as well.

May 8th, 2008

The Top 50 Reasons Why Hot Girls Date Douchebags

What is it about hot girls and douchebags that just doesn’t make any sense? We’ve all seen it, yet it still amazes most people that nice guys finish last and the jerk gets the girl. Here, we’ll attempt to explain this phenomenon.

They want an easy out: If you’re dating a jerk, no one is going to think you’re crazy for wanting to dump him once you’re tired of him.
They weren’t douchebags to begin with: Some douchebags are created once they start dating a hottie and think they can get away with it.
Douchebags are more passionate: Some girls date jerks because "safe" guys are more mild.
Douchebags are fun to complain about: We’ve all met her-the girl who loves drama. And dating a douchebag is sure to bring attention-inducing drama.
They don’t know what they want: Some girls date jerks because they just don’t know what they’re looking for.
Affection from a douchebag means more: If a guy is a total jerk 90% of the time, the 10% that he’s nice means a lot more, which will keep girls hanging on.
They have low expectations: Hot girls know that the majority of guys out there are douchebags, so until they’re ready to settle down, they are happy to play around with jerks for a while.
They’re on the rebound: A girl on the rebound is often looking for a man who is shallow and offers low maintenance attention, which douchebags are happy to deliver on.
Douchebags are more attractive: The douchebags who are attractive know they’re attractive, and realize that they can get away with being a jerk.
Women like mystery: Douchebags, with their spotty affection, offer a certain degree of mystery that girls love.
They’re douchebags, too: Girls can be douchebags, too, and douchebag girls tend to like douchebag guys.
They think all men are douchebags: Some girls just don’t realize that there are guys out there who aren’t complete jerks.
Jerks are big and important, didn’t you know?: Plenty of douchebags are sports players, rich doctors, and other "important people" who usually get a free pass to be a douchebag and get the ladies.
They don’t realize they’re hot: Some hot girls don’t realize that they’re hot enough to never have to date a douchebag.
They’re too young to know better: Girls new in the dating game may not understand that douchebags are to be avoided.
They just want sex: Some girls are just looking for a physical relationship, which most douchebags are more than happy to provide.
They like the chase: "Nice" guys tend to give girls lots of attention, but douchebags give girls the elusive chase that they want.
Douchebags are honest about being douchebags: Honesty about going for what you want is a sign of strength for many women.
Douchebags are always on the hunt: Douchebags, unlike nice guys, are always trying to score a new hottie, which means they’ll have a better chance of finding one.
They’re afraid to be alone: Some girls are so afraid to be alone, they’ll date anyone, even a jerk.
Nice guys suffocate hot girls: Some hotties stay away from nice guys because once they get their hands on one, they’ll never have a free moment away from him.
Nice guys are too shy to say something: Often, nice guys take a more passive approach to dating, which means girls may not even know they’re being pursued.
Douchebags are persistent: Douches, on the other hand, are much more forward, making girls aware of their attraction.
They don’t know they’re dating douchebags: Some girls truly have no idea that the guy they’re dating is a jerk.
They don’t want surprises: Douchebags, among other things, are incredibly consistent and easy to predict.
Douchebags command attention: Girls notice douchebags because they’re more likely to seek out attention.
Peer pressure: Nice guys and hot girls are often just in a different social class.
They’re rebelling: When a hot girl breaks up with her "nice guy," she’s probably going to want to find the exact opposite of him-a douchebag.
They don’t want to become emotionally attached: With a douchebag, a girl can be assured that she doesn’t have to worry about getting too emotionally intertwined.
Douchebags are powerful: Often, douchebags are powerful people in their regular lives, which is generally a turn-on for girls.
They want a challenge: Some girls like to think they can be the one to turn a douchebag into a nice guy.
They want what they can’t have: Girls often like to pursue relationships with men that they know will never commit.
They like to be treated like crap: Some girls have such low self-respect that they expect to get bad treatment from a guy.
Nice guys don’t offer a spark: Douchebags often offer a chemistry that "nice guys" can’t.
They don’t want to feel bad for being a douche, too: When you’re dating a douchebag, there’s less pressure to be a nice girlfriend.
They come from an abusive home: Some girls come from an abusive background and just date what they’re used to.
They love confidence: Douchebags are confident, and women like that.
They’re lonely: Lonely girls would rather date a douchebag than no one at all.
They like bad boys: Bad boys are exciting, and girls will date them even if they’re jerks.
Jerks are well connected: Whether they’re in a frat or exclusive social circle, douchebags are often well-connected to the ladies.
They want to be dominated: Some girls like domination, a quality that most douchebags offer.
Other hot girls date them: When one hot girl dates a douchebag, other hot girls think that he’s dateable, too.
Girls like danger: Again, bad boys and danger are exciting, and girls like that.
Douchebags have money: Douchebags often have wealth, or at least wealthy parents, which is very attractive to some girls.
They’re bored: A little drama from a douchebag is sure to cure boredom for most girls.
They can smell nice guys’ desperation: Hot girls often stay away from "nice guys" because they start to get too clingy.
They have low self confidence: Some girls don’t think they can do any better than a douchebag.
They have something to prove: Some girls will take on a douchebag as a challenge to show others she can make him a nicer man.
They’re into status: Hot girls are wooed by the douchebag’s nice car, cool job, and appearance of wealth.
Life sucks: Perhaps the simplest way to explain the hot girl-douchebag phenomenon is to say that life isn’t fair, buddy.

May 1st, 2008

Perfectly Fit: 50 Ways to Meet Healthy and Active Singles

If going out to a smoke-filled bar night after night to meet singles doesn’t appeal to you, there are lots of other options out there for finding a date. Meeting up and hooking up doesn’t have to include sketchy rendezvous or even a night-owl lifestyle. This list will help healthy and active singles connect with each other at sporting events, during adventurous vacations and even online. Everyday Locations From the grocery store to the gym, here are several ways you can bump into your future honey at anytime during the day.

At the gym: The gym is full of people interested in maintaining a healthy and active lifestyle, as well as individuals looking to surround themselves with lots of other people. Those who make the time and feel confident enough to go to the gym and work out in front of other people are probably more receptive to making new friends too.
The park: Camp out by the jogging trails at your city’s park to scope out all the hotties running by.
The dentist: You don’t have to have a serious oral hygiene problem to go to the dentist. Make an appointment to get your teeth cleaned, and you’ll bump into lots of other health-minded individuals who value hygiene, fresh breath and preventative care.
Religious settings: Join a group at a church or temple. Most religious centers sponsor groups just for singles, and you’ll meet people who care about their spiritual and mental health.
Volunteer projects: Get involved with a charity that does a lot of physical work, like Habitat for Humanity’s house building program, or a group that educates the public on the dangers of drug abuse. If they’re involved in the fight against drugs or alcohol, then they’re probably clean too.
Take lessons: Sign up for an adult dance class or swimming lessons. You’ll feel like you’re part of a group and will get the chance to socialize before and after class.
Environmental groups: Those choosing to lead a "green" lifestyle generally take good care of themselves, as well as the planet. They’re also more in tune with nature and are more likely to be interested in outdoor activities.
Whole Foods: Whole Foods is a favorite spot to shop for health nuts. You’ll probably also find singles sitting at tables drinking coffee, reading the paper and chomping on granola.
Farmer’s markets: Local farmer’s markets attract a variety of singles, including environmentally-conscious people, healthy eaters, community advocates and those interested in nature and the outdoors.
By the water: Bodies of water typically bring together socially-minded people who enjoy the outdoors. Join up with others by going swimming, renting a paddle boat or canoe, fishing, water skiing or even hosting a (healthy) bar-b-que.
Intramural and club sports: Even if you haven’t played in years, join an intramural team or sign up to be their water boy (or girl) to meet lots of other healthy, active singles.

Special Events Hang out at special athletic events like city marathons to meet like-minded singles.

Marathon or races: Whether it’s a race for charity or a city-wide marathon, these types of events attract large crowds of athletes at all levels.
Sports events: While major league football and hockey games can be full of drunk, disorderly fans, tennis matches and other, more low-key sports events attract true lovers of the game.
Competitions: Enter yourself into or just attend a city or county competition for lifeguards, firefighters, pet trainers or any other group. Often, these events have games, food and music.
The Olympics: Getting a ticket might require a big investment, but you’ll be surrounded by athletes from all over the world, as well as hardcore fans and plenty of singles looking for a fun time while on vacation.
Singles Yoga: This company welcomes individuals to learn and practice yoga with each other while building a "professional community for singles who are into health and wellness and meeting like minded people." The group is located in Canada, but anyone can network with the students and teachers online on Facebook, MySpace or Meetup.

Healthiest Cities If you’re serious about joining a community that values health, diet and fitness as much as you do, consider moving to one of these cities, all considered to be extremely healthy.

San Francisco: In 2007, San Francisco was named the city with the most healthy singles by Match.com.
Los Angeles: In the same study conducted by Match.com, Los Angeles ranked number two on the list of cities "where you will find singles hitting the gym." LA is also close to beautiful beaches, perfect sites for playing volleyball, surfing or rollerblading.
Seattle: Seattle’s proximity to the mountains, ocean and rainforest give singles in the area lots of options for outdoor activities. The city also placed 3rd on Match.com’s "Top Cities for Vegetarian Lovers" list and fifth on the "Top Cities for the Non-Smoker" list.
San Jose: San Jose, CA is ranked number one on Sperling’s "Top 10 Cities with Highest Healthiest Cities Scores."
Washington, D.C.: The U.S. capitol has the highest Mental Wellness score, as designated by Sperling’s list.
Austin, TX: This Texan city is home to lots of outdoor enthusiasts and environmentally-conscious singles. Austin is also close to the beautiful Texas Hill Country and several lakes and rivers.
Portland, OR: Portland was ranked in the number 2 spot on Cooking Light’s list of the cities where people eat right, exercise and "live well." Portland also features 277 miles of bike paths, over 200 parks, and lots of hiking trails and other outdoor activities.
Calgary: Calgary, Canada, was named "the world’s best city when it comes to healthy living" in 2004. The city offers many outdoor activities for visitors, including camping, bike riding and more.

Vacation Ideas Take a vacation to indulge your adventure-seeking side and to join up with fun, active singles you wouldn’t normally meet at home.

Aspen, CO: This ski resort town is popular with people of all ages, but especially young singles. Visit this website for information on annual events, group rates and more.
Dude Ranch: Head out to a dude ranch for old timey country fun. Other visitors will be up for the adventure and fit enough to ride horses and go on hiking trails.
Whitewater Rafting: Research whitewater rafting vacations, which will introduce you to extreme water sports and groups of energetic travelers.
Vegetarian Vacation: There are lots of travel options out there for vegetarians who want to experience a true "veggie holiday." While you’re out in nature bike riding, camping or taking a llama trekking tour, you’ll meet other active vegetarians.
Health spas: Nurture your mental and spiritual health at a nature spa, where you can meet others during community events, outdoor activities and more.
Culinary vacations: Learn about other cultures while you travel with a group to places like Provence, France, where you’ll learn new recipes and healthy lifestyle tips.
Wine country bike tour: Take a wine tour through California’s Sonoma and Napa valleys. You’ll meet lots of fun singles and won’t feel too guilty about your indulgence if you travel by bike.
Wild Women Expeditions: Wild Women Expeditions is a Canadian "outdoor adventure company for women" that features special lesbian-friendly vacations. Trips include hiking, paddling, fly fishing, cycling and more.
Special singles vacations: Many travel companies like Singles Travel International offer or specialize in organizing vacations just for singles. Book an Alaskan cruise or a mountain climbing trip to Peru to meet other active singles.
The Caribbean: The Caribbean isn’t just for honeymooners. Trips like this one to the British Virgin Islands are great for outdoor-minded individuals who want to sail, go snorkeling, water skiing and meet adventure-seeking singles in a tropical location.
Hawaii: Another popular honeymoon spot, Hawaii is also a paradise for singles. Honolulu is considered one of the healthiest cities in the world, and visitors can take advantage of the many natural resources for healthy eating, surfing, hiking, camping, visiting health spas and much more.

Online Networking These online networking sites will connect you to singles and people who like maintaining a healthy, active lifestyle. Join one to learn about social and athletic events in your area, meet up with singles during a trip or just socialize online.

Meetup: This popular site allows members to find like-minded friends based on geography and interest, including sports, travel and health and wellness.
Care2: Get advice on planning a green vacation from the members of Care2, a social networking site all about becoming an advocate for protecting the environment.
OKCupid: This online dating site is free to use and lets users customize the way they search for potential dates.
OUTeverywhere: OUTeverywhere is a gay social network with chat forums on topics like climate change, rugby, wine, fitness, economics, travel and more.
passportstamp: Network with other travelers, and organize a meet up during your next vacation to introduce yourself in person.
Sportsvite: Joing Sportsvite to learn about sports events and teams you can join in your city. You can also play games and manage teams online.
TravBuddy: Stay connected when you travel by logging in to TravBuddy. You can meet other travelers when you’re abroad, post pictures of your vacation and get tips on hotel stays, plane tickets and more.
WAYN: WAYN stands for Where Are You Now? Use the site to connect with other travelers and friends when you’re on vacation.
Match.com: This popular online dating site lets you scope out member profiles before meeting them in person.
eHarmony: eHarmony is another online portal for meeting singles. Screen potential dates to find out their hobbies, health habits and more.
Fitness Singles: This site is the "fastest-growing online dating community for sports and fitness enthusiasts." Post a free profile and connect with singles interested in racquetball, skydiving, sea kayaking, tennis, skiing, baseball, kickboxing, Pilates and other adventures.
Active.com: This site publishes articles and blogs, sponsors discussions and chats and provides resources for active individuals, including singles. Search topics like cycling, football, softball, triathlon and more.

Bonus opportunities For the truly devoted, here are a few more bonus opportunities that will help you meet fun loving singles.

Host a cooking class: Advertise a free cooking class for healthy eaters. Open up your own home or see if you can access a kitchen at the YMCA or other public center.
Sponsor a weekend getaway: Organize a weekend camping trip or bike tour with your friends. Ask them to invite a person you don’t know to include more people and increase your chances of making a love connection.
Join an OREC group: Colleges usually sponsor lots of OREC opportunities for students, but if you’re not eligible to join, start your own or look for community-wide clubs that go on day or weekend excursions.

April 29th, 2008

Ask the Experts: 100 Best Blogs for Relationship Advice

Keeping your love life and relationships active, on track and in the game is tough these days. Distractions for you and your mate are around every corner, so how is it possible to avoid arguments, jealousy, infidelity and even break-ups? Whether you’re single, in a relationship or even married, it takes a lot of work to maintain a fulfilling love life. For tips and advice on everything from dealing with break up grief to sex addictions, check out this list of 100 of the best blogs for relationship advice. From the True Experts Doctors and licensed counselors guide you in the right direction in their expert blogs.

Sexual Health: Sex Matters: WebMD writer and Ph.D. Louanne Cole Weston uses her Sex Matters blog to discuss everything from how depression, cancer and infidelity affect sex and relationships.
Counseling Blog: Cynthia McKenna, LPC, NCC, is a National Board Certified Counselor and Episcopal priest. Read her relationship advice here.
Healthy Relationships: Revolution Health writer and licensed practitioner of psychotherapy Mira Kirshenbaum posts about how to have better sex, work on personal and professional relationships, and more.
CounselCare Connection: CounselCare Connection employs several licensed counselors and social workers to blog about relationship advice, from premarital and marriage topics to conflict management to sexual abuse.
David Wygant: David Wygant is "America’s most quoted dating expert" and posts about networking, seduction, dating products and jealousy, among other topics.
The Great Mate Debate: This blog features different guest bloggers, all qualified to give dating and relationship advice about speed dating, arguing, "trying too hard," and more.
Advice from a Single Dating Expert: Evan Marc Katz maintains he’s a great source for dating advice "because who knows more about dating than a guy who’s still dating?"
The Nature of Love: Dr. Helen Fisher writes about the chemistry of love, drugs and love, adultery, brain science and more in this relationship blog.
AOL Coaches Love and Sex: Browse titles like "Bad Boy Gets Dumped," "Survive Your In-Laws" and "Romance on the Job" for a versatile selection of relationship posts.
Love Sessions: This site dispenses professional love and sex advice. Special features include love and relationship tests, kissing lessons and posts about flirting, seduction, cheating and marriage.

Relationship Therapy From family therapy to sex addiction, these blogs will help you work through even your most troublesome relationships.

Couples and Family Therapy Arena: Turn to this blog for therapy, advice and encouragement when trying to improve all of your relationships.
Marriage Counseling and Family Therapy: This site is a great resource for archived posts about abusive relationships, Christian counseling, group therapy and more.
The Next 45 Years: Check out this comprehensive blog that dispenses advice on how to "improve relationships, sustain happiness and create lasting success."
Good Therapy: This network of counselors and therapists blogs about sex addiction, adolescent relationships and more.

Faith-Based and Spiritual Blogs These blogs give relationship advice based on spiritual or religious teachings.

Living Life Counseling: Find Christian-centric advice for improving relationships with your spouse, family members, friends and yourself.
Jewish Dating Blog: Jewish singles looking for dating advice can turn to The Matchmaker at the Jewish Dating Blog.
Christian Singles Radio Blog: This blog also serves as a network for Christian singles. Read about dating according to Christian values and principles here.
Marriage Victory: Marriage Victory is a Christian blog devoted to making marriages work. Categories include anger management, parenting, forgiveness and anxiety.

Sex Find sex tips and sex therapy advice in these blogs from hot magazines, counselors and other sites.

Bedroom Blog: Cosmopolitan dishes up sexy bedroom tips online on the Bedroom Blog.
Center for Healthy Sex: This blog delivers "straight talk, up-to-date information and resources for individuals and couples about sexual addiction, cybersex addiction, sexual anorexia, sexual desire and sexual dysfunction."
The Dinah Blog: The Dinah Blog shares "thoughts on healthy sexuality," from quickie sessions to condoms.
Dr. Dick’s Sex Advice: Dr. Dick delivers "sex advice with an edge." Submit your own questions or browse categories like fertility, sexual enrichment and more. Warning: not safe for work!!!
Low-Carb Love: Women will enjoy this relationship and sex advice blog from iVillage.
Kinsey Confidential: Kinsey Confidential is the blog for The Kinsey Institute. Posts are generally directed at a college-aged audience, but everyone can benefit from the advice about HIV and AIDS, orgasms, condoms, and general sex tips.
Sexuality: About.com’s Cory Silverberg posts about sexual identity, addictions, Sex 2.0 and more.
Women’s Sexual Health: AOL’s resource for women’s sexual health covers everything, from sex therapy, to sex tips and advice to relationship help.
Dr. Natasha: Dr. Natasha fosters a "super sex positive environment" online. Her site has tips and advice, audio recordings of radio interviews and more.
Doctor Cockney — International Sex Therapist: Tune in to Doctor Cockney’s podcasts for videos and tips on topics like phone sex, menage a trois, and how sex is viewed around the world.

For Women These relationship and dating blogs are geared towards women who want advice on sex, dealing with ex-boyfriends, finding a mate and more.

Love Bytes: Sex expert Tracey Cox posts about break-up sex, ex-boyfriends and more on iVillage.
DearSugar: The Sugar network’s DearSugar blog is the go-to relationship and sex advice site for modern women.
Marie Claire Dating Blog: Popular women’s magazine Marie Claire publishes this dating blog about love, sex, and everything in between.
Hot and Bothered: Redbook Magazine’s Hot and Bothered blog posts about marriage, sex, dating games, swingers and more.
Dating Daze: Los Angeles-based "Cherie Amour" uses her dating life as an inspiration for this blog.
Single-ish: Glamour’s new dating blog serves up dating advice, trends and personal anecdotes.
Single in the Suburbs: Divorced mother of two Sara Susannah Katz blogs for MSN about dating in the ‘burbs.
girls gone MILD: Wendy Shalit writes about how "young women reclaim self respect and find it’s not bad to be good." Posts include stories and statistics on birth control, college hook ups and the hotness factor.
Ex in the City: Smart, savvy women flock to this site for dating, sex and relationship advice, from divorce to breaking it off with ex-boyfriends to getting back in the game.
Understanding Men: The Relationship Doctor writes this blog "for every woman how has longed for the [r]elationship of her dreams." Recent posts include "What Am I Doing Wrong With Men?" and "3 Things Men Can’t Resist."
Oprah Relationships: Oprah isn’t just for women, but this lots of terrific resources on sex, caring for parents, understanding money and relationships, and dating.

Savvy Miss: This network includes a Dating and Love feature filled with articles and posts about bedroom manners, dating, sexual health and more.

Ask April: This blog is written by relationship expert April Masini, who "writes what Dear Abby never will print and what your shrink doesn’t have the guts to tell you."

For Men Men can turn to these guides for help pleasing their woman, navigating relationships and taking a girl out on a date.

All About Dating and Romance: Recent posts on this blog include "HOw to Start a Conversation with a Girl Easily" and "4 Tips to Date a Gorgeous Woman."
Joe Hottie’s Dating Blog: Joe Hottie shares "the dirt on his dating life" on his Cosmopolitan-sponsored blog.
Ask Men Dating and Love Channel: Recent articles include "Meeting Women Online and More," "Getting Mixed Signals," and "How to Flatter Women."
Sex Drive Daily: Wired’s blog Sex Drive Daily covers topics relating to dating, romance, erotica, education and more.
The Love Blog: The Love Blog is generally geared towards men, giving them tips on spoiling girlfriends, and humorous love- and sex-related posts.
The Men’s Place: This blog is the "place where men receive practical advice about relationship issues, parenting and life in general."
Dating for Men: Recent titles on this blog include "3 Keys to Finding the One for You" and "How to Achieve Success With Women."
WebMD Men’s Health: Check out the Sex and Intimacy blog and archives for posts about sexercise, penis enlargement pills, vasectomies, relationship queries, and porn.

Wedding and Marriage From engagement quibbles to newlywed disagreements, these blogs help marriage-minded couples build up their relationships, not tear them apart.

Marriage Advice: This blog covers relationship topics ranging from finances to romance to sex to communication.
A Marriage Therapist’s Blog: Couples counselor Jay Slupesky includes therapeutic exercises, counseling tips and other great advice on his personal blog.
Marriage Blog: Familes.com hosts the Marriage Blog, full of relationship advice, anecdotes and more helpful resources.
Marriage Secrets: Discover new ways to communicate, find your own personal space and respect your spouse from the posts on this blog.
Marriage: About.com’s Marriage blog is written by Sheri and Bob Stritof. Recent posts include "Activities to Help Deepen Your Marriage Relationship" and "Are You Stressed in Your Marriage?"
Couples Support: Dr. David Sanford’s couples therapy and marriage blog includes posts on relationship skills, everyday love, communication and healing.
Newlyweds: Newlyweds should check out this blog to understand that little fights and arguments are normal, even in the early stages of marriage.
The Modern Woman’s Divorce Guide: Divorced women and women going through a divorce can turn to this blog for relationship advice for dealing with the ex, meeting new people and more.
Ferocious Flirting: Making Marriage Wonderful: Recent posts on this blog include "The other 364 days a year," "Kids tell it like it is," and "Life is romantic." Read on for everyday tips that make marriages last.
Divorce Support: Couples going through a divorce can find legal and emotional advice here.

LGBT Blogs These blogs are geared towards the LGBT community and offer up lots of smart advice.

Gay Dating Tips: Gay men will find dating tips and relationship advice here.
Lesbian Dating and Relationships: This blog posts "a variety of stories, links, tips, news and advice, all related to the world of Lesbian Dating & Relationships."
Gay and Lesbian Relationship: From lesbian activism to coming out, this relationship blog covers all the news and trends in the lesbian and gay communities.
Gayquation: The dating service Gayquation sponsors this blog, which posts about dating books, dating tips and more.

For Teens Teenagers and college students can access relationship advice and dating tips just for them on these blogs.

17 Dating: Seventeen has quizzes, dating tips and a special Guys Talk page to give teen girls insight into the dating world.
GLBT Teens: The GLBT teenage community gets its own blog at About.com, thanks to writer Ellen Friedrichs.
The Daily Kiss: Cosmo Girl! hosts this blog, with everything from dealing with best friends to having "textmances" with your crush.
Your Mind: TeensHealth from KidsHealth.org uses this blog to post about teenagers’ relationships with their parents, their friends, girlfriends and boyfriends, and themselves.
Advice from the Love Lady: About.com’s Teen Advice blog Advice from the Love Lady helps teens deal with cheating boyfriends/girlfriends, summer romances and more.
Discovery Health Teen Relationships: From STDs to love and marriage questions, this "teen center" from Discovery Health covers it all.
Adolescent Sexuality: Dr. Karen Rayne writes about safe sex, sex education, discovering sexuality in this professional blog.
Go Ask Alice: This Q&A resource isn’t just for teens, but it introduces sex and relationship tips from buying a vibrator to hiding hickeys to talking to your kids about sex.
Teen Advice: This network of blogs and articles help teens tackle relationship questions from "surviving the first fight" to being jealous to seeing things from your partner’s point of view.

Dating Turn to these general dating blogs for tips on building an online dating profile, working on a long distance relationship and more.

Bright Lights, Date City: This blog appears on the Seattle Post-Intelligencer website and includes a dating dictionary, posts about crushing, and deal breakers and dating in the big city.
The 15 Minute Dating Blog: Find hysterical — but realistic — dating dos and donts from this blog, which posts "true dating horror stories and tips from real people."
Dating: From single parents’ dating advice to online dating questions, this blog tackles all kinds of dating issues.
Online Dating News Blog: Find out online dating site launches, general dating tips, online dating warnings and more.
Ask Lynn: Advice on Love: Lynn Harris answers questions for MSN readers about long-distance relationships, dating Mr. Wrong, and more.
Online Dating Insider/strong>: Learn about what’s new in the social networking and online dating circuit on this blog. Readers will also find tips and stories about dating as a single parent, creating a profile and dating software.
Dating Support Center: Find lots of dating tips and worthy relationship advice on this blog.
Interracial Dating Central Blog: Couples in interracial relationships can find unique advice here.
Dear Kathy’s Relationship Blog: From surviving the holidays as a single to analyzing adultery, Dear Kathy provides advice, tips and encouragement for all types of readers.
Direct Answers from Wayne and Tamara: Submit your love and dating questions or read others’ relationship queries to get great advice on sexual misconduct, relationship regret, arranged marriages, commitment phobia, emotional abuse and more.
Consum-mate: Consum-mate is a dating coach’s blog devoted to helping singles find love and have lasting, healthy relationships. Categories include dating tips and date ideas, a dating advice column, relationship quizzes, and a separate dating news blog.
Cupid’s Dating Blog: Cupid’s Dating Blog discusses the news and trends surrounding the modern dating world, as well as offering advice, insight and online dating connections.

Relationship Abuse Those suffering from abuse in a relationship can find support and advice on these blogs.

Home Sweet Home: Home Sweet Home is "a blog about crimes within relationships." Readers can find tips on dealing with an abusive ex, abusive parents and more.
Color Me Butterfly: The writer of this blog talks about her own experiences and recovery from an abusive relationship, offering advice and helpful links along the way.
Domestic Violence and the Workplace: Find out how to appropriately manage workplace relationships, including damaging or even abusive ones.
The Anger Coach Blog: If you need help controlling your anger or abusive tendencies, read this blog to healthily critique your relationship behavior.
Sanctuary for the Abused: This blog is a great resource for those involved in abusive relationships. Recent articles include "Getting Out," "Repeating the Same Mistakes? Read This" and "8 Ways to Spot an Emotional Manipulator."

Miscellaneous Advice From sustainable love to sexual health, these blogs round out our list of the top 100.

Sylvia’s Long Distance Relationship Blog: In her blog, Sylvia is "helping to make long distance relationships more enjoyable and meaningful."
Savage Love: Savage Love appears on TheStranger.com. Recent posts include "Lez Be Friends," "She’s a Very Kinky Girl," and others.
SexySmart: Get smart about your relationships, sexual health and dating life by reading the posts on this fun, informative blog.
Making Love Sustainable: Wendy Strgar’s blog rests on a green relationship philosophy in regards to keeping love sustainable. Categories include healthy sexuality, loveology, romance, and more.
Ask Him Ask Her: This blog is written by a couple that aims to "answer questions and help bring connection and peace" to others wanting sex and relationship advice.
SargeNation: SargeNation is a reader-driven site that lets users submit and rank the best dating and sex stories from blogs around the Web.
Safer Sex Blog: The Safer Sex Blog shares information about health studies, STD statistics and more, to spread the word about sexual health.
Relationship Advice for Relationship Bliss: This blog has lots of positive advice for singles and couples.
Relationship Advice: This blog is "your source for relationship advice." Read on for tips on communicating, understanding your partner and more.
Larry James’ Celebrate Love Blog: Relationship coach and speaker Larry James blogs about relationships, intimacy and marriage.
Addiction, Recovery and Relationships Blog: Sober.com’s blog about addiction and relationships helps recovering addicts nurture healthy, positive relationships.

April 25th, 2008

57 Reasons You’re Not Getting Laid (And How to Fix It)

When you’re going through a dry spell, and those weeks start to become months and those months start adding up, it can start to feel like it will never end. However, there may be things you’re doing that are hindering your sex life. Making a few subtle changes can be just what you need to getting back on track to finding the satisfaction you desire. Here are some things to consider if you’re not getting any lately.

Appearance

There’s no way around it– how you look is a big part of making or breaking your chances of getting laid. Here are some ways you could be sabotaging yourself before you say a word.

You make a horrible first impression. First impressions count for a lot and if you’re making a bad one, it’s pretty unlikely that’s going to lead to anything good. Take care of how you look and present yourself when meeting anyone for the first time. You never know when it could lead to something more.
Your standards are ridiculous. If you’re not exactly the greatest catch in the world, why are you expecting to only date women or men that look like runway models? If your standards are unrealistic, you’re just setting yourself up for failure and making yourself look like a jerk in the process. Aim for people on your attractiveness level and you’ll have a much easier time sealing the deal.
You smell weird. This doesn’t always mean you smell like you just finished running a marathon, though if you’re not showering regularly you can probably assume this is a large part of your singledom. Slathering on too much aftershave or perfume can be just as overwhelming and can cause even the most tolerant of dates to hold their breath in your presence. Keep yourself smelling good but not like you just dipped yourself in a vat of eau de toilette.
You don’t take care of your appearance. You’re not going to impress many members of the opposite sex if you don’t shave, shower at at least attempt to dress like you haven’t spent the last week stranded on a desert island. You don’t have to go overboard, but make the effort to clean up before attempting to get intimate.
You have terrible dental hygiene. Let’s be honest, teeth are a big deal when it comes to finding someone attractive. You’ll have much more luck putting your mouth near someone else’s if it isn’t disgusting. Chew gum, brush your teeth and get regular check ups to ensure that your pearly whites stay that way.
You spend too much time on your appearance. On the flipside of not paying enough attention to your appearance is paying too much attention to it, at the price of your date. You don’t need to spend 4 hours prepping for a date and no one expects you to have every hair perfectly plucked. Find a happy medium and you’ll make the opposite sex happier too.
You’re too superficial. If you’re totally focused on your own appearance and that of others you’re setting yourself up for some superficial encounters as well. Some people thrive on having their egos stroked but others will find you and your attitude incredibly off-putting. Try to see beyond the surface and you may find yourself attracted to and sleeping with someone you never thought you would.
You draw attention to your flaws. Everyone has flaws and there’s not really much we can do about them. But there’s no reason to make your big nose or awkward gangliness the center of attention. If you focus on it, so will others, so play it off like you don’t even notice.
You draw attention to his/her flaws. It should be pretty obvious why this is a deal breaker. Even if you only make a joking passing reference to their big ears, this can destroy their confidence and maybe even make them think you’re kind of a jerk. It can also serve to make them too self-conscious to take off their clothes, which is exactly what you don’t want. Even if you’re thinking it, don’t say it.
You don’t like your body. It can be painfully obvious to people you meet when you don’t feel good about how you look. Self-depreciating comments and attempts to cover up every flaw will make you feel awkward and uncomfortable and won’t give you the confidence you need to make a move. Learn to accept your faults, work with what you have and love your imperfections.

Personality

Even the hottest people can drive away potential lovers by having the personality equivalent to nails on a chalkboard. Here are some tips on what not to do if you want to get to romancing.

You lack confidence. Most men and women will tell you that one of the things they find most attractive in potential mates in confidence. If you’re constantly putting yourself down or seem too shy to make a move, you may be putting off people who would otherwise be interested in you. Change your mindset and your attitude so that you project an air of confidence (though not arrogance) to those around you.
You don’t seem genuine. Few things are more off putting than someone who seems like a big old fraud. Don’t give over the top compliments or put on a show for the lady or gentleman you’re wooing. Instead, keep your cool, be yourself, and try not to act like you’re selling them something.
You’re a fraidy cat. No one wants to get rejected, but the fact of the matter is that it’s going to happen from time to time if you put yourself out there. Cowering in a corner and simply looking at other people in the bar isn’t going to get you in anyone’s pants except maybe your own, so stop being a wuss, get up and talk to someone. You might find that it’s much easier than you thought.
You’re being too nice. This is by no means an instruction to act like a total jerk and treat the women or men you’re interested in like crap. But you should recognize that there is a difference between being nice and being too nice. If you’re starting to sound a little too syrupy sweet, you may be putting out the signal that you’re a pushover and that your date can walk all over you. So be nice, but not so nice you seem like a human Care Bear.
Your friends aren’t helping you out. This isn’t so much about your own personality as the personalities of those you choose to surround yourself with. You may be a fine, upstanding gentleman or lady, but if you’re hanging out with a bunch of frat boy idiots, you’re likely not exactly setting yourself up for success. Choose who you go out on the prowl with carefully, and try to make sure its someone who’ll be an asset instead of a liability.
You’re too intense. Ever been on a date with someone who stares you down or seems dead set on professing their love for you at every available moment? Does this sound like something that would be fun? You may be an incredibly intense, tortured soul, but the interest and tolerance that most people have for this kind of attitude wears off pretty quickly and then you just become a creep. Keep the life and death discussions until at least a few dates in to avoid scaring off your dates.
You’re being someone else. Unless you’re a masterful con artist, chances are pretty good that you’ll come off as a little awkward and forced if you try to be someone else when meeting new people or on a date. Do yourself a favor and just be yourself. Whether it works out or not, at least you didn’t have to fake it.
You come across as a sleaze. Most dates will know within a few minutes of meeting you whether or not you’re genuinely interested in them or if you’re just trying to make it to home plate. Unless your date is just as sadly desperate as you, this isn’t going to go over well. Keep the sleaze factor to a minimum. This means no taking dates to strip clubs, pinching butts or very clearly trying to get them drunk.
You’re not honest about what you’re looking for. If you’re truly not looking for a long term relationship, don’t tell women or men that you are just to bed them. This can cause a lot of trouble later, and most people will appreciate honesty up front. Who knows, you may even find someone else who’s just looking to have a good time as well.
You’re an idiot. While in the long term this simply can’t be helped, in the short term you can help downplay the effects of your total cluelessness by keeping your conversations short and sweet, not saying anything rude and by employing subtle flattery. It may disguise your true identity long enough for you to score some digits or more.
You seem desperate. If it’s clear you’re eyeing the room like a starving animal, you may be driving all your potential prey as far away as possible. Slobbering on every available person that comes your way isn’t going to win too many hearts, minds or bodies. Relax and let things happen naturally instead.
You talk about exes. No new girl or guy wants to hear about your ex so shut up about it no matter how fresh it is in your memory. It makes you seem like you’re stuck on the past and not ready to move forward with them.
You have no sense of humor. Few people like to hang around with sourpuss types who never seem to get the joke and take life as seriously as possible. Lighten up already. You may have serious concerns about the plight of starving children in Africa, and that’s fine, but learn to take and make jokes as well to keep your date entertained.
You come off as a loser. Still living at home? Unemployed? Publicly shamed? Try to keep these details about yourself on the back burner at least in the short term. Once someone gets to know and like you they may be more willing to accept your imperfections and may not see them as automatic deal breakers.
You’re creepy. Ever seen a forty year old at a frat party? How about the types who make kissy noises to ladies who pass by? These kinds of people get labeled pretty quickly as creeps and they’re not doing themselves any favors. Act like a normal person, be reasonable with your expectations, and don’t oversexualize yourself and you will likely be fine.
You’re condescending. Being a know-it-all may be useful in some situations, but dating is not one of them. Acting like you have nothing to learn from your date and that you are infinitely more intelligent than they are probably isn’t going to make them throw their arms around you. No one likes an arrogant person, so cut out the condensation and try to see what your potential love has to teach you.
You act like a child. Kids can get away with needing help cutting their meat and throwing temper tantrums because, well, they’re kids. No one expects them to be mature. You, on the other hand, are an adult. Acting like a petulant five year old when things don’t go your way is one of the quickest ways you can drive away any interested partners. Learn to act your age, don’t whine and don’t expect your partners to mother you.
You have annoying habits. Perhaps you laugh loudly after everything you say or constantly tap the table. You may not even notice you’re doing these things, but your date sure will. In the superficial early stages of dating these can be real mood killers. Ask your friends if you have any annoying habits, they’re sure to have noticed, and try to reign them in around the opposite sex.
You’re needy. Babies, puppies and kittens are needy but totally adorable. If you’re needy, it’s completely unattractive. Most people like independent, confident individuals when looking for a mate. Your potential mate isn’t your parent and doesn’t want to have to bend over backwards to make sure your every need is met. Take care of yourself and the magic will happen on its own.
You come off as stupid. Maybe you are stupid but that doesn’t mean you have to sound or appear to be stupid when talking up someone you’re interested in. Keep up on current events and don’t pretend to know about things you haven’t got a clue about. Let your date tell you about them instead. It will keep you from sounding like an idiot and make them feel smarter and more special in the process.

Dating

If you’ve taken it from the initial meeting stages to a real date there are still tons of ways you could be preventing yourself from taking it any further. Consider these things and your sailing may be a little smoother from here on out.

You live in the wrong city. Let’s face it, some places just give you better odds at meeting someone of the opposite (or same) sex. New York for example has many more single ladies than men, while the west coast is chock full of single men looking for a lady. You don’t have to move halfway across the country to meet someone, but perhaps a little vacation could be just what you need to skew the odds in your favor.
You act like too much of a player. Whether you’re a man or a woman, acting like the person you’re on a date with is just one in a long string of mates isn’t going to win their heart anytime soon. When you’re on a date the person you’re with should be the only thing you’re concentrating on. Making them feel special can win trust, endear them to you, and increase the chances they’ll stick around long enough for a little hanky panky.
You’re trying too hard. Being around someone who is trying so hard to impress and charm someone they’re interested in is one of the most awkward situations possible. It not only makes your potential mate and everyone around feel uncomfortable, but it also makes you look like a sad, pathetic sap. Try to keep your conversations casual and keep things friendly. You don’t have to go out of your way to impress or flatter anyone, especially not right off the bat.
You’re not trying hard enough. On the flipside, your date is going to be pretty miffed if you show up looking like you just rolled out of bed, you’re late, and you don’t seem to have put any thoughts into plans for the evening. Unless you’re a rockstar, this kind of performance isn’t going to land you any kind of action anytime soon. If your date is making the effort to look presentable and spend time thinking about you, at least have the decency to return the favor.
You come on too strong. If you’ve made it clear within the first five minutes of the date that all you’re doing is picturing the person naked or figuring how best to get them actually naked, you’re probably not going to have a chance of doing that anytime soon. While in actuality you may be a desperate, sex-starved person, don’t let your date onto this fact and keep the sexual commentary to a minimum unless it’s reciprocated.
You don’t listen. Your date can tell when you’re not really listening to what he or she is saying. This lack of interest just makes you seem rude and isn’t going to win you any brownie points. Listen carefully. Your recall of details could be key later on to impressing your date.
You’re not that nice. While conventional wisdom tells us that people love to date those who are huge jerks the reality is that people also love to date people who are genuinely nice. Don’t put down your date, be rude, or act like a know-it-all. You may be acting like a rebel without a cause, but you likely won’t be impressing anyone but yourself.
You don’t know how to have a conversation. Awkward silences on a date can be pretty miserable and they’re only exacerbated by poor conversational skills. If you don’t have anything to talk about, chances are you haven’t been listening to your date or you’ve bored them by talking too much about yourself. Make an effort to boost your conversational skills in everything you do and to learn about what makes your date tick.
You’re late. While later on in a relationship tardiness can become an endearing and quirky part of your personality, early on it’s just rude. It makes your date feel like you can’t be bothered to be on time and that you don’t care that much about them. Not exactly the impression you want to make. Give yourself plenty of time before going out to get ready and to get to your destination. The extra effort can definitely pay off in the end.
You’re not focused on him/her. Guilty of a wandering eye? Don’t think that your date hasn’t noticed, they sure as heck see every time you check out the waitress or cute boys who walk by. Focus your attention on your date and save the browsing for later.
You talk too much about yourself. It’s fine to tell someone that doesn’t know much about you what you like, where you work and what you do in your spare time but if you’re going on and on about yourself, your date is likely starting to care less and less about what you’re saying. Make a concentrated effort to ensure that both of you are participating in the conversation. You’ll both have more fun and there’s a much better chance of things going further.
You’re boring. Maybe it’s not your fault. Maybe you work in a boring office with boring people and you live alone and never leave the house. Well, that kind of is your fault. If you don’t do anything you don’t have anything to talk to people about. Get out there, have fun, take up a hobby, read a book, anything that gives you something to talk about that doesn’t bore the crap out of everyone else around you.
Your compliments are smarmy. Most people love getting compliments but when you’re idea of a compliment is "wow, your ass looks great in those jeans" you may be crossing the line from nice to sort of creepy. Keep the compliments nice, genuine and preferably something you wouldn’t be embarrassed to have your mother hear and save the sexy stuff for later.
You act like a salesperson. Essentially you are selling yourself, but no one wants to feel like they’re getting swindled by a used car salesman when they go on a date. Keep the sales pitches to a minimum and stick to talking about the basics. If the person is interested, the pitch is unnecessary anyway.
You use stupid pick up lines. Pick up lines rarely work and if they do its usually because they’re so stupid they’re funny or the person you’re using them on is too inebriated to realize just how stupid they are. Cut out the cheesy lines and just stick to small talk when you’re meeting someone new.

Sealing the Deal

If you can make it to the home stretch but just can’t seem to quite get over that last hurdle, you may be sabotaging your own efforts by doing one of these things.

You are afraid to make the first move. Everyone has been in a situation where they’re not sure if they should put the moves on their date or not. The thing is, you’ll never know if your date is up for it if you don’t try. If you feel uncomfortable invading his or her personal space you can ask first, but whatever you do, take the initiative or opportunities could just be getting away from you.
You’re too drunk. If it takes you three beers before you can even get up the nerve to talk to someone you’re interested in, you may be blowing it before you even get out of the gate. Unless your lovely lady or man is also inebriated, your drunken blatherings aren’t going to get you too far. Even if you do manage to bring someone home, you likely won’t make it a memorable experience for them or yourself in your state. So have a drink if it helps loosen you up, but don’t get drunk if you’re looking to score a date or sex you’ll actually remember.
You make things awkward. Don’t put your date in a position where they feel they have to do things they may not yet be comfortable with. If they don’t feel comfortable with you they’re not going to go out on another date and you’re sure as heck not getting laid. Try to keep the awkwardness to a minimum and don’t put him/her in situations you know might lead to uncomfortable silences.
You’re rude to his/her friends. One of the quickest ways to blow a good thing is to be a jerk to your potential mate’s friends. If you’re rude to them, chances are you’ll be rude to him/her too and that’s a big turn off. Even if you find their friends to be beyond annoying, keep your thoughts to yourself.
You’re a slob. Bringing your date home to the disgusting mess you have at home isn’t going to impress anyone, nor will it set the mood for romance. Wash the dishes, pick up your dirty clothes and change the sheets if you think you’ll be bringing anyone home. Even if you don’t, it doesn’t hurt to clean up now and again.
You’re too nervous. So you’ve finally got the chance to get some and you’re shaking in your boots at the prospect. Don’t let your nerves ruin it for you. Relax and realize there are few things you could do to really mess things up at this point.
Your timing sucks. It could be that you’ve done everything right but when the time comes (or so you think) to finally get to the lovemaking, your intuition is all wrong and you blow it. Before putting the moves on your date ensure that they’re in a good mood, that they reciprocate your feelings and that the situation isn’t horribly, horribly awkward for them.
You suck at kissing. Many people base how well you’ll perform in the sack on how well you kiss, and if you’re doing a crappy job of that things are unlikely to go much further. Don’t shove your tongue down their throat, keep the sloppiness to a minimum, and follow your partner’s lead and you’ll be better off already.
You make him/her uncomfortable. If you’ve gotten an attractive someone to come home with you the last thing you want to do is to make them feel uncomfortable with you. Whether that’s because your apartment is decorated in taxidermied animals or because you’re pushing too hard, making your date comfortable is entirely up to you. Do what you can to ensure they feel taken care of and you’re much more likely to score big.
You ruin the moment. You’re just about to cross the line from desperately seeking to satisfied when you open your big mouth and say something completely stupid. There’s nothing worse than ruining it at the last moment, so keep your commentary to yourself and make sure you have all the necessary preparations to take it all the way.
You have no idea how to take it to the next level. While what is comfortable for each person differs individually, in general its not too hard to figure out how to take your relationship to the next level. Just do it. Simple as that. If your date isn’t ready he or she will tell you so.
You’re most interested in meeting your own needs. It can become abundantly clear to someone that you’re dating that you have no regard for their needs and that you’re only trying to meet your own. You won’t be meeting anyone’s needs if you make this too clear, so ensure that you’re making things enjoyable for both you and your partner. The more fun they have, the more likely they are to return for more.

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