Nerds Do It Better

By Jessica Merritt

Everyone knows that eating chocolate and wearing fancy lingerie can spice up your sex life, but there are a number of little known ways to make things more interesting that you may not have considered. Whether it’s eating the right food, or just getting a handle on your stress level, there are many things you can do to get a better libido. Read on to learn about 100 of these solutions.

Lifestyle & Habits

Take a look at your everyday life to see if you’re interfering with sex.

1. Relax: Stress can weaken your libido, so stay cool.
2. Stop worrying: When your mind is strained, you may have a hard time getting in the mood.
3. Stop smoking: Smoking can cause low sperm counts and decrease your virility, so quit or cut down on this habit.
4. Establish good hygiene: Something as simple as remembering to floss can help make you feel more attractive and be more attractive to your partner.
5. Schedule sex: Although the thought of penciling in intercourse is not particularly sexy, it can help guarantee that you’ll be more sexually active.
6. Avoid steroids: Steriods can interfere with your hormones and decrease your sex drive.
7. Resolve cultural issues: If your cultural beliefs make you feel uncomfortable about sex, resolve them on your own or with the help of a therapist.
8. Improve your self esteem: If you’re feeling inadequate or just down on yourself, improve your outlook on your own or with the help of a therapist.
9. Resolve religious issues: Overcome feelings of guilt and discomfort stemming from religious beliefs.
10. Curb your alcohol intake: Excessive drinking can be to blame for low sperm counts and poor circulation, so avoid drinking too much.
11. Pay your bills: Avoid nagging worry over your financial situation, and you’ll feel more relaxed and receptive to sex.
12. Drink plenty of water: Don’t overdo it, but drink water throughout the day to promote vaginal moisture and overall health.
13. Wear loose fitting underwear: Men should wear underwear that allows for some breathing room in order to promote good circulation to the area.
14. Give longer kisses: Kisses that last 12 seconds or longer can reignite your passion.
15. Have sex more often: Having sex on a more frequent basis can help get the ball rolling and keep you more sexual.
16. Avoid high temperature baths: Although relaxing, hot tubs and saunas can hinder circulation, particularly for men, so they aren’t good for your sex drive.
17. Don’t set your laptop on your lap: Especially for men, laptops can increase the temperature in your groin area, which is detrimental to your virility.
18. Avoid sitting for extended periods of time: Sitting for too long, especially for men, can decrease the flow of blood to your sexual organs.
19. Stay active: Inactivity can decrease your sex drive, so be sure to live an active lifestyle.
20. Eliminate anxiety: Anxiety can be a strain on your libido, so learn to let go better.

Relationship

How you feel toward your partner can have a lot to do with the quantity and quality of sex, so follow these tips to build a relationship that’s more open to sex.

21. Communicate: Talk to your partner about sexual problems and feelings you may have to see how you can work them out together.
22. Avoid arguments: Choose your battles to have more positive feelings towards your partner.
23. Think positively about sex: Don’t think of sex as a chore, but instead as a fun and loving experience that you can share.
24. Spend time together: Get away from the hectic pace of life and just have fun together to get your spark back.
25. Show affection: Outside of the bedroom, show affection to your partner, and you’ll be more attracted to them sexually.
26. Do something new: Introduce a little novelty into your lives together, and you’ll produce dopamine, a chemical that helps fuel sex drive.
27. Take a vacation: Sometimes the hectic pace of daily life can get in the way of sex, so step out of your usual routine to spice things up.
28. Take a deep breath: The scent of your partner’s sweat can be a booster for your sex drive.
29. Go out on a date: Support your emotional connection by going on a date, and focus on building your relationship.
30. Avoid witholding sex: Don’t make sex a bargaining chip, or you’ll end up having less of it.
31. Share responsibilities: If you’re not having sex because you or your partner is burned out or too tired, learn to more evenly balance your responsibilities between you.

Health

Your health plays a major part in the way your body craves and responds to sex, so make sure you’re in tip top shape.

32. Sleep well: A good night’s rest can help you feel more energetic and make you more interested in sex.
33. Lose weight: Maintaining a healthy body weight can improve your self image, as well as make your body more receptive to sex.
34. Get regular screenings for cancer and STDs: Disease can easily interfere with a healthy sex life, so be sure to get checked out regularly.
35. Massage: Massage, even when it’s not a part of foreplay, can help increase your blood flow and make you feel energetic and virile.
36. Treat diabetes: Diabetes can interfere with regular sexual health and desire, so be sure to treat the disease the best way you can.
37. Get therapy: Speak to a therapist about your sexuality to uncover any emotional problems you may have.
38. Avoid saturated fat: Saturated fat can clog your arteries and prevent good blood flow to your sexual organs.
39. Support your circulatory system: Reduce your blood pressure and cholesterol to make your circulatory system more healthy and efficient.
40. Deal with physical ailments: Problems including constant headaches, endometriosis, diabetes, and arthritis can interfere with your sexual enjoyment, so get them diagnosed and treated.
41. Tighten your PC muscles: For women, exercising the PC muscles can lead to more fulfilling sex, which can increase your desire.
42. Screen for anemia: Get checked out for anemia, which can be a cause of low sex drive.
43. Talk to your doctor about depression: Depression can cause your sex drive to suffer, so find out if you’re affected by it.
44. Get treatment for sexual dysfunction: If you’re having physical troubles with sex, talk to your doctor about getting it taken care of.
45. Gain weight: If you’re underweight, your sexual functions may be diminished. This is especially true for women, who may cease ovulation if body fat levels are too low.
46. Evaluate your prescription drugs: Talk to your doctor to find out if your drugs are interfering with your libido.
47. Ask about hormone balances: Find out if you have a hormonal imbalance, and find out what you can do about it.

Activities

Engage in these activities to boost your sex drive.

48. Have sex anyway: Even if you’re not in the mood, have sex, and chances are you’ll get into it anyway.
49. Do yoga: Certain yoga poses will help improve the blow flow to your sexual organs, as well as improve your overall health.
50. Get aerobic exercise: Improve the blood flow to your sex organs by getting things pumping with aerobics.
51. Read a romance novel: Turn on the biggest erogenous zone you have by reading a steamy bodice ripper.
52. Stretch: Open up your body and flexibility with regular stretching.
53. Do something dangerous: Dangerous activities will trigger dopamine and stimulate your sex drive.
54. Role play: Adopt roles to play throughout the day or just out on a date to make things more interesting and set up a promise of things to come.
55. Avoid exercising too much: Extreme exercise can lower your testosterone levels, which help your libido, so keep exercise to a moderate level.
56. Compete: Being competitive, like in sports, can raise your levels of libido-boosting hormone testosterone.

In the Bedroom

These are a few things you can do with your partner to jump start your libido.

57. Use sex toys: Although intimidating for some, sex toys can make sex more interesting and enticing.
58. Watch porn: It does not work for everyone, but porn can help get you in the mood, or help you discover new things.
59. Be more adventurous: Keep the interest alive by being willing to try new things.
60. Get out of the bedroom: Explore new places to have sex, like the kitchen or your neighborhood park to spice things up.
61. Talk dirty: Whether you’re in the bedroom or out on a date, don’t be shy about talking dirty.
62. Fight boredom: If you’re bored with sex, think of new ways you and your partner can connect.
63. Leave the lights on: Toss out feelings of shame and embarrassment, and have more exciting sex with the lights on.
64. Explore by touching new regions: Get away from traditional erogenous zones, and touch your partner some place new.

Food

These foods can make you healthier, and foster a better sex life.

65. Eat a good diet: Overall, eating a nutritious diet full of fruits and vegetables will help you feel better and more in the mood for sexual activity.
66. Drink alcohol: Although drinking too much can have an adverse effect, alcohol, particularly high quality beer and distilled spirits, can improve your overall and sexual health.
67. Almonds: Almonds are full of fatty acids that will help with circulation.
68. Goji berries: Goji berries will help increase testosterone levels in both men and women, as well as improve sexual stamina.
69. Eat healthy fats: Your body needs fat to create hormones, so don’t cut fat out of your diet.
70. Black licorice: Black licorice can increase genital bloodflow by 40 percent.
71. Celery: In celery, you’ll find androsterone, which is a hormone that’s been known to turn women on.
72. Bananas: This phallic fruit can offer a shot in the arm to the male libido.
73. Avocado: These delicious gems are full of fatty acids that will support your circulatory health.
74. Avoid extreme dieting: Dieting too much or too harshly can leave your body devoid of the nutrients it needs for sexual health.
75. Asparagus: This vegetable is a good source for sexual health supporting vitamin E.
76. Nutmeg: Indian medicine uses nutmeg for enhancing desire, and its extract has been found to have the same effect as Viagra.
77. Chili peppers: Chili peppers contain capasaicin, which supports good circulation.
78. Eat protein: Protein offers plenty of energy that will make you more receptive to sex.
79. Avoid caffeine: Caffeine can reduce your libido, so do your best to avoid coffee tea, and soda with caffeine.
80. Basil: This herb increases your circulation and supports a sense of well being.
81. Soy: Eating lots of soy can increase your arousal, as the food’s phytoestrogens mimic estrogen.
82. Garlic: Although not great for sexy breath, garlic offers allicin, which can improve the blood flow to your sexual organs.
83. Avoid heavy carbohydrates: Pasta dishes will put you to sleep, rather than get you in the mood.
84. Brazil nuts: Brazil nuts are full of the amino acid arginine, which can boost levels of blood to the genitals.
85. Figs: Figs are believed to increase stamina, and are high in amino acids.
86. The smell of comfort food: Researchers say that men can be turned on by foods they enjoy, such as doughnuts, pizza, and strawberries.
87. Pumpkin seeds: In pumpkin seeds, you’ll find zinc, which helps men produce testosterone, and will help support a woman’s sex drive.

Supplements

Talk to your doctor about taking one or more of these supplements to help with your libido.

88. Take a multivitamin: Multivitamins can help promote your overall health and sexual wellness, as well as provide specific nutrients that you need for a strong sex drive.
89. Choline: Choline can help enhance levels of acetylcholine, which sends sexual impulses from your brain to sex organs.
90. Vitamin B: Vitamin B deficiencies can be linked to infertility, so be sure to get plenty of it.
91. Iron: Having an iron deficiency can leave you fatigued and out of energy for sex.
92. Testosterone: Testosterone is the hormone that is behind your sex drive, so higher levels of it can help raise your libido.
93. Manganese: Manganese ensures a healthy metabolism of the hormone estrogen.
94. Vitamin E vaginal suppositories: If vaginal dryness is the cause of your low sex drive, it can be treated with these suppositories.
95. Muirapuama and catuaba: In Brazil, these two herbs together are believed to increase your libido and support sexual potency.
96. Vitamin A: Vitamin A helps support imporant tissues for your reproductive health.
97. Zinc: Be sure that you’re getting enough zinc, as a lack of this mineral can cause impotence and infertility.
98. Vitamin C: Be sure to drink your orange juice, as vitamin C can help boost fertility.
99. Vitamin B5: Also known as panothenic acid, B5 is important for the creation of sex hormones.
100. Selenium: This mineral helps ensure healthy production of sperm.

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