Nerds Do It Better

By Jessica Hupp

A failing sex drive can be frustrating, but there are a number of things that you can do to make it better. Some of these sure-fire methods include exercising, eating well, and being healthier in general. Here, we’ve listed these and many other easy and natural ways to get your spark back.

Emotional

If your mind is not open to sex, your body just won’t follow. Try these strategies for effective ways to help get in the mood.

1. Build self-confidence: Improve your interest in sex by feeling good about yourself.
2. Rid yourself of stress: Stress will weaken your libido, as worry keeps your mind off of sex and on other things. Try relaxing with a warm bath or a good book.
3. Don’t get caught up in fights: Resolve problems with your partner so that they don’t lead to withdrawal in the bedroom.
4. Get your imagination going: Read a steamy novel or watch porn to get your mind’s eye thinking about sex.
5. Change your attitude about sex: Don’t think about sex as a chore. Rather, regard it as a fun, pleasurable activity with someone you love.

Physical

Take these physical steps to make your body more receptive to sex.

1. Be attractive: Even if you’re not naturally beautiful, there are a number of things you can do to make yourself feel more attractive. Whether that means a spa day or a new outfit, do whatever it takes to feel good about yourself.
2. Stretch: Stretching offers a low-impact way to improve your blood flow and relax.
3. Exercise: Work the muscles that you need for good sex, and you’ll both improve blood flow and feel good about yourself.
4. Get a massage: Massages can release the tension in your body and increase your blood flow, which is good for sexual arousal.
5. Try yoga: Certain yoga positions will help improve circulation to your sexual organs and increase desire.
6. Lose weight: Excessive weight can have an effect on your self-esteem and make you feel less attractive. It’s also possible that being overweight can interfere with blood flow to your sexual organs, so shed a few pounds to help your libido.

Habits

Your libido is an ongoing entity, and it’s affected by everything that you do. Try these methods, and consider how you can improve your sex drive with habits from your daily life.

1. Quit smoking: Smoking has an adverse effect on blood flow, as it causes a narrowing of blood vessels, including those in sexual organs. Additionally, smoking steals your energy and gives you bad breath.
2. Smell good: Your sense of smell can boost your libido. Some scents in particular, like buttered popcorn and baby powder, have been found to turn men and women on.
3. Get a good night’s rest: If you’re tired, chances are you’re not going to be in the mood. So sleep well at night and rest up for good health and good sex.
4. Drink in moderation: Alcohol may increase desire initially, but can lead to impotence and general unattractiveness if you go too far.
5. Touch each other constantly: Touching your partner, whether it’s sexual or not, can help arouse sexual feelings. This can be as simple as holding hands or hugging on a regular basis.

Food

Beyond daily habits, the things you eat can have an effect on your libido. Check out these foods to improve your desire for sex.

1. Eat aphrodisiacs: Some foods are just great for getting you in the mood. Oysters in particular are good to eat, as they’re full of fertility-boosting zinc.
2. Avoid simple carbs: Carbohydrate dishes are likely to have you heading to bed for sleep instead of sex, so avoid pasta, pizza and other snooze-inducing meals.
3. Eat protein: Protein will give you an energy boost that will have you feeling good and ready for sex.
4. Eat fish: Fish is not only high in protein, it has Omega-3 fatty acids as well, and these acids are wonderful for improving your circulation and sexual health.
5. Cut down on saturated fat: Men should be careful to avoid eating too much saturated fat, as it can clog arteries and block adequate flow to your penis. One doctor says that a good guideline to keep in mind is, “anything that’s good for your heart is good for your penis.”

Health

Your overall health has a profound effect on your sex drive, so speak to your doctor about these issues.

1. Look into your hormones: Speak with your doctor about your low libido. Sometimes, the problem lies in a hormone imbalance.
2. Consider quitting antidepressants: Many antidepressant medications can have a negative effect on your sex drive, so discuss discontinuation of your prescription or consider alternatives.
3. Keep diabetes in check: Uncontrolled diabetes can be responsible for sexual evils like erectile dysfunction and decreased sexual response, so be sure to take care of it.
4. Look into adrenal fatigue: Your failing libido could be brought on by a condition called adrenal fatigue. Speak with your doctor to see if you have this condition.

Remedies

Finally, you can supplement the actions you’re taking to improve your sex life with these herbal remedies that are believed to help.

1. Gingko biloba: This remedy has been shown to improve blood flow to both your brain and sexual organs. It’s also believed to offer an improvement on desire, arousal, and orgasm.
2. Yohimbe: This “natural Viagra” has been used in Africa as an aphrodisiac for many years. It’s believed to improve male impotence.

By Jessica Hupp

What is it about hot girls and douchebags that just doesn’t make any sense? We’ve all seen it, yet it still amazes most people that nice guys finish last and the jerk gets the girl. Here, we’ll attempt to explain this phenomenon.

1. They want an easy out: If you’re dating a jerk, no one is going to think you’re crazy for wanting to dump him once you’re tired of him.
2. They weren’t douchebags to begin with: Some douchebags are created once they start dating a hottie and think they can get away with it.
3. Douchebags are more passionate: Some girls date jerks because “safe” guys are more mild.
4. Douchebags are fun to complain about: We’ve all met her-the girl who loves drama. And dating a douchebag is sure to bring attention-inducing drama.
5. They don’t know what they want: Some girls date jerks because they just don’t know what they’re looking for.
6. Affection from a douchebag means more: If a guy is a total jerk 90% of the time, the 10% that he’s nice means a lot more, which will keep girls hanging on.
7. They have low expectations: Hot girls know that the majority of guys out there are douchebags, so until they’re ready to settle down, they are happy to play around with jerks for a while.
8. They’re on the rebound: A girl on the rebound is often looking for a man who is shallow and offers low maintenance attention, which douchebags are happy to deliver on.
9. Douchebags are more attractive: The douchebags who are attractive know they’re attractive, and realize that they can get away with being a jerk.
10. Women like mystery: Douchebags, with their spotty affection, offer a certain degree of mystery that girls love.
11. They’re douchebags, too: Girls can be douchebags, too, and douchebag girls tend to like douchebag guys.
12. They think all men are douchebags: Some girls just don’t realize that there are guys out there who aren’t complete jerks.
13. Jerks are big and important, didn’t you know?: Plenty of douchebags are sports players, rich doctors, and other “important people” who usually get a free pass to be a douchebag and get the ladies.
14. They don’t realize they’re hot: Some hot girls don’t realize that they’re hot enough to never have to date a douchebag.
15. They’re too young to know better: Girls new in the dating game may not understand that douchebags are to be avoided.
16. They just want sex: Some girls are just looking for a physical relationship, which most douchebags are more than happy to provide.
17. They like the chase: “Nice” guys tend to give girls lots of attention, but douchebags give girls the elusive chase that they want.
18. Douchebags are honest about being douchebags: Honesty about going for what you want is a sign of strength for many women.
19. Douchebags are always on the hunt: Douchebags, unlike nice guys, are always trying to score a new hottie, which means they’ll have a better chance of finding one.
20. They’re afraid to be alone: Some girls are so afraid to be alone, they’ll date anyone, even a jerk.
21. Nice guys suffocate hot girls: Some hotties stay away from nice guys because once they get their hands on one, they’ll never have a free moment away from him.
22. Nice guys are too shy to say something: Often, nice guys take a more passive approach to dating, which means girls may not even know they’re being pursued.
23. Douchebags are persistent: Douches, on the other hand, are much more forward, making girls aware of their attraction.
24. They don’t know they’re dating douchebags: Some girls truly have no idea that the guy they’re dating is a jerk.
25. They don’t want surprises: Douchebags, among other things, are incredibly consistent and easy to predict.
26. Douchebags command attention: Girls notice douchebags because they’re more likely to seek out attention.
27. Peer pressure: Nice guys and hot girls are often just in a different social class.
28. They’re rebelling: When a hot girl breaks up with her “nice guy,” she’s probably going to want to find the exact opposite of him-a douchebag.
29. They don’t want to become emotionally attached: With a douchebag, a girl can be assured that she doesn’t have to worry about getting too emotionally intertwined.
30. Douchebags are powerful: Often, douchebags are powerful people in their regular lives, which is generally a turn-on for girls.
31. They want a challenge: Some girls like to think they can be the one to turn a douchebag into a nice guy.
32. They want what they can’t have: Girls often like to pursue relationships with men that they know will never commit.
33. They like to be treated like crap: Some girls have such low self-respect that they expect to get bad treatment from a guy.
34. Nice guys don’t offer a spark: Douchebags often offer a chemistry that “nice guys” can’t.
35. They don’t want to feel bad for being a douche, too: When you’re dating a douchebag, there’s less pressure to be a nice girlfriend.
36. They come from an abusive home: Some girls come from an abusive background and just date what they’re used to.
37. They love confidence: Douchebags are confident, and women like that.
38. They’re lonely: Lonely girls would rather date a douchebag than no one at all.
39. They like bad boys: Bad boys are exciting, and girls will date them even if they’re jerks.
40. Jerks are well connected: Whether they’re in a frat or exclusive social circle, douchebags are often well-connected to the ladies.
41. They want to be dominated: Some girls like domination, a quality that most douchebags offer.
42. Other hot girls date them: When one hot girl dates a douchebag, other hot girls think that he’s dateable, too.
43. Girls like danger: Again, bad boys and danger are exciting, and girls like that.
44. Douchebags have money: Douchebags often have wealth, or at least wealthy parents, which is very attractive to some girls.
45. They’re bored: A little drama from a douchebag is sure to cure boredom for most girls.
46. They can smell nice guys’ desperation: Hot girls often stay away from “nice guys” because they start to get too clingy.
47. They have low self confidence: Some girls don’t think they can do any better than a douchebag.
48. They have something to prove: Some girls will take on a douchebag as a challenge to show others she can make him a nicer man.
49. They’re into status: Hot girls are wooed by the douchebag’s nice car, cool job, and appearance of wealth.
50. Life sucks: Perhaps the simplest way to explain the hot girl-douchebag phenomenon is to say that life isn’t fair, buddy.

By Jessica Hupp

No matter how perfect you may think you are, the fact this there’s always some small way you can improve upon yourself. Whether it’s broadening your knowledge or reducing your impact on the earth, there are seemingly endless little things you can do to make a change for the better. Here, we’ll discuss 100 of these steps, and how you can go about doing them.

Health

Good health is the foundation of a good life, so make these improvements, and they’ll resonate out to the rest of your life.

1. Eat breakfast every morning: Eating breakfast is important for your health and mental power, supplying essential vitamins, minerals, and energy for your day.
2. Get a good night’s rest: You just can’t have a happy and productive life if you’re tired all of the time, so get some quality shut eye.
3. Drink water: Step up your water intake to lose weight, feel better, and improve your skin.
4. Eat slowly: Slow down when you eat, and you’ll find that you consume less while still feeling satisfied.
5. Cut down on junk food: Junk food has a nasty way of bringing your health down, so avoid it whenever possible, opting instead for healthy food like fresh fruits and vegetables.
6. Practice good dental hygiene: Researchers have found that dental hygiene is important for more than cosmetic reasons-it can help you chew food and even avoid heart disease.
7. Drink tea: Be sure to check out the powerhouse of benefits that tea can deliver, which includes improved memory and prevention of ills such as cavities, cancer, and heart disease.
8. Get some exercise: Whether you need to lose weight or not, exercise will have a positive effect on your overall health and quality of life.
9. Improve your energy: If you’re feeling sluggish all day, chances are you’re just not going to feel good about yourself. So take a few steps to boost your energy, and you’ll be better in your daily life.
10. Intensify your workouts: Researchers have found that by doing more intense workouts, you can enjoy similar benefits that you would with a more relaxed workout for a longer period of time.
11. Enjoy fish a few times a week: Eat fish, and you’ll get a serving of Omega-3 fatty acids, which can help reduce heart disease.
12. Wear better shoes: Don’t torture your toes with restrictive shoes all the time-limit the amount of time you spend in uncomfortable shoes.
13. Protect your skin: Stay out of the sun to avoid skin damage, or use sunblock to help.
14. Eat at home: It’s easier and cheaper to prepare healthy foods on your own at home, and skillfully cooking a meal is sure to impress just about anyone.
15. Get tested for prediabetes: Diabetes is a disease that many Americans are susceptible to, and by discovering it early on you can prevent it or lessen its impact.
16. Take a daily walk: Get a little bit of movement and clear your mind with a walk every day.
17. Lose weight: One of the best things you can do for your health and overall quality of life is to shed a few pounds.

Social

Take these steps to change your social life for the better.

18. Join a book club: Get some social interaction while improving your knowledge with a book club.
19. Get out of the house: Believe it or not, the world just isn’t going to come to you. You’ve got to get out of your “zone” for social interaction.
20. Volunteer: For a rewarding social experience, look into volunteer opportunities.
21. Ignore minor irritations: Whether it’s some jerk in traffic, or incessant Facebook application requests, some things just aren’t worth dealing with.
22. Start a blog: Spark an online discussion and network with new people through a blog.
23. Talk to strangers: Don’t hesitate to spark a conversation with someone you don’t know-you just might enjoy yourself, or even make a new friend.
24. Don’t stereotype or label people: Avoid dismissing people based on factors you don’t fully understand, and you may find that they have something to offer you.
25. Call old friends: You’d be surprised how many people would be overjoyed to hear from you, especially if it’s been a while since you’ve seen them.
26. Go to church: Make new friends and get in touch with your spiritual side at church or temple.
27. Host a party: Spend some time with good friends and enjoy yourself at home by inviting others over for a party.
28. Enjoy a hobby: Having a regular, relaxing activity will bring you joy.
29. Join a club: Whether you’re into board games or photography, there’s a group out there for you.

Emotional

Improve your emotional life with these simple strategies.

30. Make an effort to be happy: Whether you actually feel happy or not, make it a point to attempt happiness. It will help you feel better, as well as others around you.
31. Consider religion: If you’re not a spiritual person, consider becoming more involved with religion to improve your emotional well-being.
32. Stop taking things personally: Although it may seem to the contrary, know that not everyone is out to make your life harder.
33. Be optimistic: Put a positive spin on things and feel better about the future.
34. Know when to lose sleep: Sometimes, you have more important things to do than sleep, but they key is knowing when that should happen.
35. Step out of your comfort zone: Make it a point to step out of your comfort zone once in awhile. It’s a great way to advance yourself.
36. Get rid of ill-fitting clothing: Clothes that don’t fit right will just make you look bad and feel worse about yourself. If you love a piece, but it just doesn’t look good, consider getting it tailored.
37. Spend time with a child: Look at the world through a child’s eyes and get inspired. You’ll learn to appreciate simple things and see life with excitement.
38. Pamper yourself: Take care of yourself, whether that means getting a pint of ice cream now and then, or just getting a spa treatment.
39. Celebrate your successes: When you’ve accomplished something great, take a moment to feel good about it!
40. Quit your technology addiction: Although you may love your BlackBerry, you’ll feel a whole lot better if you just step away from the screen for a while.
41. Set goals: By setting goals, you’ll give yourself something to strive for and look forward to.
42. Feel good about yourself: Make a decision to improve your self-confidence, and you’ll feel better. Others will notice it, too.
43. Be thankful: Every now and then, take some time to acknowledge all of the good things you have in your life, big and small.
44. Cut yourself some slack: Avoid inventing your own impossible, stringent rules that you have to stick to-they’ll only make you feel nervous and guilty.
45. Let go of the past: Don’t hold grudges-let go, and you’ll free up emotional space.
46. Don’t be dramatic: Stop inflating small problems, or you’ll make yourself more anxious than you need to be.
47. Express yourself: Let your emotions come out through art, writing, or other forms of expression.
48. Meditate: Take some time out every day to have an inner dialogue with yourself.

Financial

Make these changes to improve your life’s financial outlook.

49. Pay off debt: Nothing will improve your finances better than simply getting rid of debt.
50. Build an emergency fund: Keep an emergency fund to save yourself from plummeting into the red when something pops up, and you’ll be much more secure.
51. Track your spending: At some point in their lives, nearly everyone has wondered where all their money goes. Try this exercise to finally get to the bottom of it, and identify spots where your money could be better spent.
52. Be frugal: Embrace frugality in your life, and you’ll save money while living more simply.
53. Make extra payments: Pay off mortgage and other large debts early, and you’ll take a load off.
54. Diversify your income: Provide yourself with some financial security by finding multiple sources of income.
55. Save: The concept is simple-save money, and you’ll have more financial power to do the things you’d like to do.
56. Eat at home more often: Eating out all the time may be fun, but preparing meals at home is a better financial strategy.
57. Invest: Investing is not only fun, it’s an excellent way to make your money grow.
58. Set a goal: Give yourself a financial goal to achieve, whether it’s saving for a particular item, or doubling your investments.
59. Save for retirement: Don’t give your future self a huge mess to take care of-save now, and you’ll enjoy it later.

Mental

Improve your mind by taking these simple steps.

60. Go back to school: Continuing your education does not have to be a complicated endeavor. Take an online class, or just a weekend seminar.
61. Read classic books: Improve your mind by finally picking up all those books you were supposed to read in school.
62. Plan: Always have a plan for your life, so you’ll know what you’re working toward.
63. Quit procrastinating: Resolve to get moving, and you’ll find that you have much more time than you originally realized.
64. Get inspired by a book: Read a book that will help you spark positive changes in your life.
65. Learn from your mistakes: Don’t let mistakes get you down. Instead, consider what you did wrong, and how you can avoid doing so again in the future.
66. Stop worrying: Let go of worry, and know that the future will come no matter what you do about it.
67. Learn to play a musical instrument: Pick up a guitar, or even a harp, to improve your mental capacity and have something fun to do.
68. Work to your own advantage: Improve upon what you can, and let the rest fall away.
69. Think slowly: Instead of jumping to conclusions, carefully calculate what a situation means. Doing so can help you save relationships that might be damaged by rash thinking
70. Participate in a debate: Have a rational discussion with someone of similar intellect to improve your knowledge.
71. Learn a new language: Broaden your horizons by learning how to speak a new language.
72. Visit Wikipedia: Spend some time on Wikipedia learning lots of interesting facts you’ve never realized before.

Habits

Make these changes in your daily life to improve upon yourself.

73. Quit smoking: It’s the single most important thing you can do for your health, appearance, and energy. You’ll smell better, too.
74. Wake up early: Be an early riser, and you’ll find that you have more time to get things done.
75. Spend more time outside: Head outside to become more active and enjoy the world around you.
76. Be organized: Make things easier on yourself by living a more organized life.

At Work

You spend so much time at work, but probably don’t often consider how you can improve upon this important facet of your life. Take these steps to make things just a little bit better.

77. Make friends with your coworkers: One of the easiest and most important things you can do to improve your career is to practice inner networking. Socialize with your coworkers, and they’ll be more willing to help you when you need it.
78. Improve your writing skills: If you improve upon your writing skills, you’ll instantly sound more intelligent and persuasive.
79. Collaborate: Don’t go it alone-ask for help, and give help in return.
80. Keep your inbox empty: Reduce anxiety and simplify by clearing out your inbox as much as you can.
81. Leave work at the door: Don’t bring work home with you, or you’ll stress yourself out at home.
82. Join a professional association: Network with others in your field for fun and career advancement.
83. Ask for a raise: Simply asking for a raise you deserve is a no-brainer way to feel better about work and your paycheck.
84. Improve your resume: If you’re not happy with your job, give your resume a facelift and consider seeking a new position.
85. Improve your system: If you’ve got a messy desk, or generally lead a disorganized work life, take charge by reorganizing.
86. Start your own business: One of the best ways to improve your career is to go into business for yourself.

In Your Community

Getting involved in your community is a great way to improve upon your life. Try these methods for getting out there.

87. Vote: Impact your community’s future by participating in the election of officials.
88. Donate unused items: Instead of holding a garage sale, pass your old items on to people who need them-like books to schools, and clothing to shelters.
89. Support charitable endeavors: Whether it’s with money or time, do what you can to help out charities in your community.
90. Be a coach: Offer to coach a youth sport, and you’ll shape young lives while having fun.
91. Visit your local library: Take advantage of your community’s library to both save money and broaden your mind.

In the Environment

An excellent way to improve upon yourself is to reduce the negative impact you have on the world. Take these steps to get greener and change your life for the better.

92. Work to reduce your carbon emissions: Find out about the many things you can do to help cut your carbon emissions, and then take action on them.
93. Improve your gas mileage: Drive more slowly and coast as much as you can to improve your gas mileage.
94. Turn off the lights: Cut your waste and energy bill by turning off your lights whenever you don’t need them.
95. Get a reusable water bottle: Keep plastic water bottles out of our landfills by getting a container you can use over and over again.
96. Reduce your trash: Take steps to cut down on the waste you put in landfills.
97. Buy local and organic food: Support your health and local farmer by purchasing local, organic produce.
98. Adjust your thermostat: Let your heater and AC take a small break by adjusting your thermostat to reduce waste.
99. Stop using plastic bags: Quit using plastic bags, and you’ll both reduce your impact and save animals.
100. Take shorter showers: Save a precious resource by reducing the amount of water you use in your daily shower.

By Jessica Hupp

Sex is one of life’s most enjoyable physical pleasures, but did you know that it’s also great for your overall health? That’s right-sex has been found to help with conditions ranging from the common cold to high blood pressure. And although you’re not likely to come home from your next doctor’s appointment with a scribbled prescription for sex, it can be highly effective as a preventative measure and complementary treatment. Read on to find out what conditions you’re protecting yourself from every time you enjoy a roll in the hay.

1. Depression: Without the help of researchers, just about anyone can agree that sex will make you feel good about yourself and just a bit more confident. But one researcher has said there’s a scientific explanation that goes a bit farther. Professor Gordon Gallop says that there’s an unknown chemical in semen that has an antidepressant effect on women.
2. Pregnancy: Sex is both the cause and the cure for pregnancy. Women who are ready to induce labor often have sex to speed up the process, and research backs up this method. Semen contains prostaglandins, which help the cervix prepare to open, and orgasms produce oxytocin, which will help cause contractions.
3. Headaches: Although sex can sometimes bring on a headache, it can cure them too. The tension release your body experiences during and after sex can ease restricted blood vessels in the brain.
4. Menstrual cramps: Sex acts as an analgetic to relieve menstrual pain, primarily because of the relaxation and endorphins sex brings.
5. Arthritis: In his book, “How to Treat Arthritis with Sex and Alcohol,” rheumatologist Carter V. Multz asserts that sex, as well as alcohol and other complementary treatments, can reduce pain, swelling, and inflammation associated with arthritis.
6. Common cold: Manfred Schedlovski, a Swiss researcher from Zurich, asserts that sex has a positive effect on phagocytes, which are a part of the immune system that goes after alien bodies, like cold germs, and kills them. Phagocytes are increased signficantly during sex, and will often double after orgasm.
7. Stress: Orgasms offer a great way to relax, and even nonorgasmic sex offers some relief. Dr. Joshua Golden asserts sex’s relaxation properties, as well as emotional benefits.
8. Tooth decay: Kissing, as well as oral sex, encourages saliva production. This increase in saliva helps to wash food particles from your teeth, prevents plaque build-up, and helps lower decay-causing acid. Additionaly, seminal plasma has been shown to help prevent tooth decay.
9. Erectile dysfunction: By exercising your Kegel muscles with frequent sex and delaying ejaculation, men can help strengthen muscles enough to help with minor erection problems.
10. High blood pressure: Semen has been found to lower blood pressure in women. Specifically, swallowing semen can help ward off preeclampsia, which is a dangerously high blood pressure that sometimes occurs during pregnancy.
11. Insomnia: Many people find that the relaxation they experience after sex helps them go to sleep.
12. Prostate cancer: Men who ejaculate more frequently have been found to be at a lower risk of developing prostate cancer.
13. Hangovers: Sex may not save your liver, but it will help you shake off a funk. Having sex will help boost your endorphins and oxytocins, which stimulate muscle contraction and help you avoid aggressiveness.
14. Toxic system: Sex gets your blood pumping faster, which helps to rid the body of waste.
15. Heart disease: Studies have shown that if men have sex twice a week or more, they tend to have a lower risk of heart attack. For women, increased levels of estrogen caused by sex help to protect against heart disease.
16. Stubborn wounds: Studies have found that oxytocin, which is released during sex, can help wounds heal faster.
17. Low energy: Sex increases energy through exercise and emotional well-being.
18. Minor cognitive problems: Whenever you become sexually excited or have an orgasm, the hormone DHEA is released. DHEA has been found to improve cognition.
19. Skin irritations: The sweat released during sex will cleanse your pores, helping to relieve rashes, blemishes, and other skin problems.
20. Pain: Orgasm releases endorphins, which will alleviate pain for just about everything.
21. Obesity: Although few doctors are likely to prescribe a sex diet, the fact is that sex is a form of exercise. Performing the act of sex requires physical activity that will burn calories and strengthen your heart. It’s an especially great exercise for those who have little motivation to get to the gym.
22. Incontinence: Every time you have sex, you’re exercising your Kegel muscles, which are the same ones you use to stem the flow of urine.
23. Weak bones and muscles: Sex brings on a boost of testosterone, which helps to make your bones and muscles strong.
24. Semen allergy: Unfortunately, some women are allergic to their partner’s semen. However, along with other treatments, frequent sex has been found to work as an effective desensitization therapy for this allergy.
25. Death: That’s right, sex can help ward off death for men. Professor Stuart Brody reports that men who orgasm twice a week are half as likely to die as those who only orgasm once a month.

By Heather Johnson

If going out to a smoke-filled bar night after night to meet singles doesn’t appeal to you, there are lots of other options out there for finding a date. Meeting up and hooking up doesn’t have to include sketchy rendezvous or even a night-owl lifestyle. This list will help healthy and active singles connect with each other at sporting events, during adventurous vacations and even online.

Everyday Locations

From the grocery store to the gym, here are several ways you can bump into your future honey at anytime during the day.

1. At the gym: The gym is full of people interested in maintaining a healthy and active lifestyle, as well as individuals looking to surround themselves with lots of other people. Those who make the time and feel confident enough to go to the gym and work out in front of other people are probably more receptive to making new friends too.
2. The park: Camp out by the jogging trails at your city’s park to scope out all the hotties running by.
3. The dentist: You don’t have to have a serious oral hygiene problem to go to the dentist. Make an appointment to get your teeth cleaned, and you’ll bump into lots of other health-minded individuals who value hygiene, fresh breath and preventative care.
4. Religious settings: Join a group at a church or temple. Most religious centers sponsor groups just for singles, and you’ll meet people who care about their spiritual and mental health.
5. Volunteer projects: Get involved with a charity that does a lot of physical work, like Habitat for Humanity’s house building program, or a group that educates the public on the dangers of drug abuse. If they’re involved in the fight against drugs or alcohol, then they’re probably clean too.
6. Take lessons: Sign up for an adult dance class or swimming lessons. You’ll feel like you’re part of a group and will get the chance to socialize before and after class.
7. Environmental groups: Those choosing to lead a “green” lifestyle generally take good care of themselves, as well as the planet. They’re also more in tune with nature and are more likely to be interested in outdoor activities.
8. Whole Foods: Whole Foods is a favorite spot to shop for health nuts. You’ll probably also find singles sitting at tables drinking coffee, reading the paper and chomping on granola.
9. Farmer’s markets: Local farmer’s markets attract a variety of singles, including environmentally-conscious people, healthy eaters, community advocates and those interested in nature and the outdoors.
10. By the water: Bodies of water typically bring together socially-minded people who enjoy the outdoors. Join up with others by going swimming, renting a paddle boat or canoe, fishing, water skiing or even hosting a (healthy) bar-b-que.
11. Intramural and club sports: Even if you haven’t played in years, join an intramural team or sign up to be their water boy (or girl) to meet lots of other healthy, active singles.

Special Events

Hang out at special athletic events like city marathons to meet like-minded singles.

1. Marathon or races: Whether it’s a race for charity or a city-wide marathon, these types of events attract large crowds of athletes at all levels.
2. Sports events: While major league football and hockey games can be full of drunk, disorderly fans, tennis matches and other, more low-key sports events attract true lovers of the game.
3. Competitions: Enter yourself into or just attend a city or county competition for lifeguards, firefighters, pet trainers or any other group. Often, these events have games, food and music.
4. The Olympics: Getting a ticket might require a big investment, but you’ll be surrounded by athletes from all over the world, as well as hardcore fans and plenty of singles looking for a fun time while on vacation.
5. Singles Yoga: This company welcomes individuals to learn and practice yoga with each other while building a “professional community for singles who are into health and wellness and meeting like minded people.” The group is located in Canada, but anyone can network with the students and teachers online on Facebook, MySpace or Meetup.

Healthiest Cities

If you’re serious about joining a community that values health, diet and fitness as much as you do, consider moving to one of these cities, all considered to be extremely healthy.

1. San Francisco: In 2007, San Francisco was named the city with the most healthy singles by Match.com.
2. Los Angeles: In the same study conducted by Match.com, Los Angeles ranked number two on the list of cities “where you will find singles hitting the gym.” LA is also close to beautiful beaches, perfect sites for playing volleyball, surfing or rollerblading.
3. Seattle: Seattle’s proximity to the mountains, ocean and rainforest give singles in the area lots of options for outdoor activities. The city also placed 3rd on Match.com’s “Top Cities for Vegetarian Lovers” list and fifth on the “Top Cities for the Non-Smoker” list.
4. San Jose: San Jose, CA is ranked number one on Sperling’s “Top 10 Cities with Highest Healthiest Cities Scores.”
5. Washington, D.C.: The U.S. capitol has the highest Mental Wellness score, as designated by Sperling’s list.
6. Austin, TX: This Texan city is home to lots of outdoor enthusiasts and environmentally-conscious singles. Austin is also close to the beautiful Texas Hill Country and several lakes and rivers.
7. Portland, OR: Portland was ranked in the number 2 spot on Cooking Light’s list of the cities where people eat right, exercise and “live well.” Portland also features 277 miles of bike paths, over 200 parks, and lots of hiking trails and other outdoor activities.
8. Calgary: Calgary, Canada, was named “the world’s best city when it comes to healthy living” in 2004. The city offers many outdoor activities for visitors, including camping, bike riding and more.

Vacation Ideas

Take a vacation to indulge your adventure-seeking side and to join up with fun, active singles you wouldn’t normally meet at home.

1. Aspen, CO: This ski resort town is popular with people of all ages, but especially young singles. Visit this website for information on annual events, group rates and more.
2. Dude Ranch: Head out to a dude ranch for old timey country fun. Other visitors will be up for the adventure and fit enough to ride horses and go on hiking trails.
3. Whitewater Rafting: Research whitewater rafting vacations, which will introduce you to extreme water sports and groups of energetic travelers.
4. Vegetarian Vacation: There are lots of travel options out there for vegetarians who want to experience a true “veggie holiday.” While you’re out in nature bike riding, camping or taking a llama trekking tour, you’ll meet other active vegetarians.
5. Health spas: Nurture your mental and spiritual health at a nature spa, where you can meet others during community events, outdoor activities and more.
6. Culinary vacations: Learn about other cultures while you travel with a group to places like Provence, France, where you’ll learn new recipes and healthy lifestyle tips.
7. Wine country bike tour: Take a wine tour through California’s Sonoma and Napa valleys. You’ll meet lots of fun singles and won’t feel too guilty about your indulgence if you travel by bike.
8. Wild Women Expeditions: Wild Women Expeditions is a Canadian “outdoor adventure company for women” that features special lesbian-friendly vacations. Trips include hiking, paddling, fly fishing, cycling and more.
9. Special singles vacations: Many travel companies like Singles Travel International offer or specialize in organizing vacations just for singles. Book an Alaskan cruise or a mountain climbing trip to Peru to meet other active singles.
10. The Caribbean: The Caribbean isn’t just for honeymooners. Trips like this one to the British Virgin Islands are great for outdoor-minded individuals who want to sail, go snorkeling, water skiing and meet adventure-seeking singles in a tropical location.
11. Hawaii: Another popular honeymoon spot, Hawaii is also a paradise for singles. Honolulu is considered one of the healthiest cities in the world, and visitors can take advantage of the many natural resources for healthy eating, surfing, hiking, camping, visiting health spas and much more.

Online Networking

These online networking sites will connect you to singles and people who like maintaining a healthy, active lifestyle. Join one to learn about social and athletic events in your area, meet up with singles during a trip or just socialize online.

1. Meetup: This popular site allows members to find like-minded friends based on geography and interest, including sports, travel and health and wellness.
2. Care2: Get advice on planning a green vacation from the members of Care2, a social networking site all about becoming an advocate for protecting the environment.
3. OKCupid: This online dating site is free to use and lets users customize the way they search for potential dates.
4. OUTeverywhere: OUTeverywhere is a gay social network with chat forums on topics like climate change, rugby, wine, fitness, economics, travel and more.
5. passportstamp: Network with other travelers, and organize a meet up during your next vacation to introduce yourself in person.
6. Sportsvite: Joing Sportsvite to learn about sports events and teams you can join in your city. You can also play games and manage teams online.
7. TravBuddy: Stay connected when you travel by logging in to TravBuddy. You can meet other travelers when you’re abroad, post pictures of your vacation and get tips on hotel stays, plane tickets and more.
8. WAYN: WAYN stands for Where Are You Now? Use the site to connect with other travelers and friends when you’re on vacation.
9. Match.com: This popular online dating site lets you scope out member profiles before meeting them in person.
10. eHarmony: eHarmony is another online portal for meeting singles. Screen potential dates to find out their hobbies, health habits and more.
11. Fitness Singles: This site is the “fastest-growing online dating community for sports and fitness enthusiasts.” Post a free profile and connect with singles interested in racquetball, skydiving, sea kayaking, tennis, skiing, baseball, kickboxing, Pilates and other adventures.
12. Active.com: This site publishes articles and blogs, sponsors discussions and chats and provides resources for active individuals, including singles. Search topics like cycling, football, softball, triathlon and more.

Bonus opportunities

For the truly devoted, here are a few more bonus opportunities that will help you meet fun loving singles.

1. Host a cooking class: Advertise a free cooking class for healthy eaters. Open up your own home or see if you can access a kitchen at the YMCA or other public center.
2. Sponsor a weekend getaway: Organize a weekend camping trip or bike tour with your friends. Ask them to invite a person you don’t know to include more people and increase your chances of making a love connection.
3. Join an OREC group: Colleges usually sponsor lots of OREC opportunities for students, but if you’re not eligible to join, start your own or look for community-wide clubs that go on day or weekend excursions.

By Laura Milligan

Getting creative in the bedroom isn’t just for Valentine’s Day or honeymoons. If you want to spice up your sex life, you’ll need to lose your inhibitions and experiment with props, positions and different environments all year round. From the vault of articles at Cosmopolitan online to blog posts, games and illustrated guides from Men’s Health, Oprah and more, use these 50 resources to your — and your partner’s — advantage.

Getting Fired Up

Sometimes getting started is the hardest part. Learn how to break the ice, lose your inhibitions and jump start your libido by following this advice.

1. How Do I Lose My Sexual Inhibitions?: Oprah’s Relationships page offers advice from Elle magazine columnist E. Jean Carroll. She recommends having a “goddess day,” using blindfolds and role playing.
2. Strip Her Inhibitions: Men’s Health publishes this guide to help men put their partners’ nerves at ease and help them get in the game.
3. Get in the Mood for Love: This interactive guide offers up tips like adding a mirror to the bedroom, taking advantage of mood lighting and more to help lovers get in the mood.
4. Feel in the Mood for Sex (Even When You’re Stressed) Learn tricks for getting aroused even when you’re stressed out.
5. Have Sex for Dessert: This clever “menu” is full of foods that act as aphrodisiacs, including red wine, shrimp cocktail, and file mignon.
6. Self Esteem, Hot Sex & Peace on the Planet Podcast with Dr. Judy Kuriansky: Watch this podcast to learn how to use Kama Sutra energy to ease stress, raise your libido, and banish “the four uglies:” shame, embarrassment, guilt and fear.
7. Top 10 Natural Ways to Boost Libido: Discovery Health lists techniques like taking gingko biloba and experimenting with massage to boost libido.
8. Recharge Your Sex Life!: Read this article from Kaboose to find out how you can get more creative and spice up your sex life…even if you’re a busy parent on the go.
9. Ways to Enjoy Sex While Helping Your Back: Having a bad back isn’t a valid excuse for skipping sex. Doing yoga with your partner and getting massages will help you get in the mood.
10. Sex Over 50: Keeping Your Sex Life Fun and Active: If you’re over 50, read this guide to help get you find new ways to experiment with sex.

Pleasing Her

Check out these resources for tips and tricks that will really impress your woman.

11. How to Get Her in the Mood for Sex: Learn new ways to arouse your woman with this detailed guide.
12. 15 Sex Tips from Women: Sexually satisfied women let guys know what works in the bedroom.
13. A Man’s Guide to Knowing Her Sweet Spots: Really get to know your partner’s body by fully understanding a woman’s sensitive spots and how to work them.
14. What Your Woman Wants in Bed: Learn new foreplay techniques and more when you check out this sexy article.
15. Drive Your Woman Wild: Tips like “communicate” and “take your time” will make you a better lover.
16. Give a Sensual Massage: This very detailed guide gives directions for creating the mood for massage, mixing your own massage oils and giving your partner a massage she’ll never forget.
17. 10 Foreplay Tips: How to Better Satisfy a Woman in the Bedroom: The title of this piece speaks for itself. Read on for tips like “take your time before undressing her” and more.
18. 14 Oral Sex Tips: If you want to mix things up in the bedroom, start by mastering these tips.
19. Romantic Ideas: Old-fashioned romance goes a long way. Get simple but effective tips here.
20. Signs She’s Faking It: Find out for sure whether or not your partner is faking the big O by evaluating these signs.

Pleasing Him

It’s not just about the woman! Wow your man with these fun, sexy tricks.

21. 4 Sex Secrets That Keep Any Guy Interested: iVillage’s Michael Jeffrey lists four sexy “musts” that teach women to please their men in bed.
22. His 9 Pleasure Triggers: Find out a man’s nine pleasure points by checking out this hot resource.
23. Planning a Hot Night: Seduce your man by teasing his senses.
24. Striptease 101: Have fun planning out your outfit, using props and choreographing a sexy little dance when you read this article.
25. The Oral Factor: Women wanting oral sex tips to please their man can find them here.
26. Sex Tips from Guys: Find out what real guys have to say about their favorite off-the-wall sex experiences here.
27. 3 Surefire Ways to Please a Man in Bed: iVillage lists dirty talk, using a hands-on approach, and going oral as their top three tips.
28. Guys Tell All: Learn about sex from a guy’s perspective by doing some research on this site.
29. Foreplay for Men: Men need foreplay too. Check out this guide for help turning on your man.
30. 10 Ways to Have Fun With Your Boyfriend–If you Stay Indoors: If you’re sick of watching TV, try out these creative ways to inspire romance.

Creative Ideas

From kinky sex to living out your partner’s fantasies, these ideas inspire creativity.

31. Cosmo’s Most Creative Sex Positions Ever: From the “Kitchen Encounter” to “On the Level,” these creative positions will quickly become new favorites.
32. The Art of Kinky Sex: Try out these simple little tips to make a romp in the bedroom full of unexpected surprises.
33. The Art of Role Playing: Get ideas for role playing scenarios here.
34. Living Out the Top 3 Female Fantasies: If your love life is stuck in a rut, try acting out one of these sexy fantasies in the bedroom.
35. 10 New Places to Have Sex: Who says you have to have sex in the bedroom? Try out some of these secretive and taboo hot spots for a change.
36. Surprise Sexy Scenarios: From playing hide and seek to surprising your partner with a mid-dinner snack, you’ll find sexy little inspirations here.
37. How to Spice Up Your Sex Life: Forbes’ list of the thirteen steps to better sex includes new drugs, exercise, gene therapy and other innovative ideas.
38. Play strip anything: If you’re no good at poker or don’t have any cards, turn any chore or activity into a game…that ends up with at least one of you naked.
39. Creative Passion: This article is meant for women, but anyone can use these sex tips to wow their partner in bed…or in the rain…or anywhere else.
40. Watch a sexy movie with your partner: If you’re squeamish, try something R- or PG-13 rated. Watching a steamy movie will get you in the mood, and you can reenact the scenes later, play by play.

Go-to Guides

Use this list to connect to expert advice, ultimate how-tos and online archives full of ideas and instruction that will benefit your performance in the bedroom.

41. Spice up your sex life: Doctor G. gives the Miami Herald ten tips for spicing up your sex life, from flirting with your partner to sleeping naked.
42. Kama Sutra Positions: This illustrated guide will introduce you and your partner to new, satisfying sexual positions.
43. How to Be a More Sensual Couple: This Reader’s Digest article has a lot of great advice for couples who want to add more passion to their lives.
44. Cosmo’s 20 Favorite Sex Tips Ever: Get tips for creative foreplay, sensual massages and more here.
45. Secrets to a Long and Happy Sex Life: Just because you’re not in your 20s and 30s anymore doesn’t mean you can’t have a fulfilling sex life. This article from Time gives tips to keep the passion alive.
46. 18 Simple Rules for Becoming a Better Kisser: Even if you think you’re already a good kisser, review this list to make sure you’re puckering up right.
47. Cosmopolitan Sex and Love: Visit Cosmopolitan’s online website for sex tips, new positions, romance quizzes and more.
48. Men’s Health: Men’s Health online has “tons of cool stuff” that guys need to know about sex. Watch relationship videos, read about threesomes and check out the interactive “Position Master.”
49. Tantric Sex: This guide to tantric sex from the Discovery Health website will take your pleasure to new heights.
50. AskMen.com: This website has lots of resources and tips for men wanting to learn more about sex and improve their own sexual techniques and experiences.

By Laura Milligan

Keeping your love life and relationships active, on track and in the game is tough these days. Distractions for you and your mate are around every corner, so how is it possible to avoid arguments, jealousy, infidelity and even break-ups? Whether you’re single, in a relationship or even married, it takes a lot of work to maintain a fulfilling love life. For tips and advice on everything from dealing with break up grief to sex addictions, check out this list of 100 of the best blogs for relationship advice.

From the True Experts

Doctors and licensed counselors guide you in the right direction in their expert blogs.

1. Sexual Health: Sex Matters: WebMD writer and Ph.D. Louanne Cole Weston uses her Sex Matters blog to discuss everything from how depression, cancer and infidelity affect sex and relationships.
2. Counseling Blog: Cynthia McKenna, LPC, NCC, is a National Board Certified Counselor and Episcopal priest. Read her relationship advice here.
3. Healthy Relationships: Revolution Health writer and licensed practitioner of psychotherapy Mira Kirshenbaum posts about how to have better sex, work on personal and professional relationships, and more.
4. CounselCare Connection: CounselCare Connection employs several licensed counselors and social workers to blog about relationship advice, from premarital and marriage topics to conflict management to sexual abuse.
5. David Wygant: David Wygant is “America’s most quoted dating expert” and posts about networking, seduction, dating products and jealousy, among other topics.
6. The Great Mate Debate: This blog features different guest bloggers, all qualified to give dating and relationship advice about speed dating, arguing, “trying too hard,” and more.
7. Advice from a Single Dating Expert: Evan Marc Katz maintains he’s a great source for dating advice “because who knows more about dating than a guy who’s still dating?”
8. The Nature of Love: Dr. Helen Fisher writes about the chemistry of love, drugs and love, adultery, brain science and more in this relationship blog.
9. AOL Coaches Love and Sex: Browse titles like “Bad Boy Gets Dumped,” “Survive Your In-Laws” and “Romance on the Job” for a versatile selection of relationship posts.
10. Love Sessions: This site dispenses professional love and sex advice. Special features include love and relationship tests, kissing lessons and posts about flirting, seduction, cheating and marriage.

Relationship Therapy

From family therapy to sex addiction, these blogs will help you work through even your most troublesome relationships.

1. Couples and Family Therapy Arena: Turn to this blog for therapy, advice and encouragement when trying to improve all of your relationships.
2. Marriage Counseling and Family Therapy: This site is a great resource for archived posts about abusive relationships, Christian counseling, group therapy and more.
3. The Next 45 Years: Check out this comprehensive blog that dispenses advice on how to “improve relationships, sustain happiness and create lasting success.”
4. Good Therapy: This network of counselors and therapists blogs about sex addiction, adolescent relationships and more.

Faith-Based and Spiritual Blogs

These blogs give relationship advice based on spiritual or religious teachings.

1. Living Life Counseling: Find Christian-centric advice for improving relationships with your spouse, family members, friends and yourself.
2. Jewish Dating Blog: Jewish singles looking for dating advice can turn to The Matchmaker at the Jewish Dating Blog.
3. Christian Singles Radio Blog: This blog also serves as a network for Christian singles. Read about dating according to Christian values and principles here.
4. Marriage Victory: Marriage Victory is a Christian blog devoted to making marriages work. Categories include anger management, parenting, forgiveness and anxiety.

Sex

Find sex tips and sex therapy advice in these blogs from hot magazines, counselors and other sites.

1. Bedroom Blog: Cosmopolitan dishes up sexy bedroom tips online on the Bedroom Blog.
2. Center for Healthy Sex: This blog delivers “straight talk, up-to-date information and resources for individuals and couples about
   sexual addiction, cybersex addiction, sexual anorexia, sexual desire and sexual dysfunction.”
3. The Dinah Blog: The Dinah Blog shares “thoughts on healthy sexuality,” from quickie sessions to condoms.
4. Dr. Dick’s Sex Advice: Dr. Dick delivers “sex advice with an edge.” Submit your own questions or browse categories like fertility, sexual enrichment and more. Warning: not safe for work!!!
5. Low-Carb Love: Women will enjoy this relationship and sex advice blog from iVillage.
6. Kinsey Confidential: Kinsey Confidential is the blog for The Kinsey Institute. Posts are generally directed at a college-aged audience, but everyone can benefit from the advice about HIV and AIDS, orgasms, condoms, and general sex tips.
7. Sexuality: About.com’s Cory Silverberg posts about sexual identity, addictions, Sex 2.0 and more.
8. Women’s Sexual Health: AOL’s resource for women’s sexual health covers everything, from sex therapy, to sex tips and advice to relationship help.
9. Dr. Natasha: Dr. Natasha fosters a “super sex positive environment” online. Her site has tips and advice, audio recordings of radio interviews and more.
10. Doctor Cockney — International Sex Therapist: Tune in to Doctor Cockney’s podcasts for videos and tips on topics like phone sex, menage a trois, and how sex is viewed around the world.

For Women

These relationship and dating blogs are geared towards women who want advice on sex, dealing with ex-boyfriends, finding a mate and more.

1. Love Bytes: Sex expert Tracey Cox posts about break-up sex, ex-boyfriends and more on iVillage.
2. DearSugar: The Sugar network’s DearSugar blog is the go-to relationship and sex advice site for modern women.
3. Marie Claire Dating Blog: Popular women’s magazine Marie Claire publishes this dating blog about love, sex, and everything in between.
4. Hot and Bothered: Redbook Magazine’s Hot and Bothered blog posts about marriage, sex, dating games, swingers and more.
5. Dating Daze: Los
   Angeles-based “Cherie Amour” uses her dating life as an inspiration for this blog.
6. Single-ish: Glamour’s new dating blog serves up dating advice, trends and personal anecdotes.
7. Single in the Suburbs: Divorced mother of two Sara Susannah Katz blogs for MSN about dating in the ‘burbs.
8. girls gone MILD: Wendy Shalit writes about how “young women reclaim self respect and find it’s not bad to be good.” Posts include stories and statistics on birth control, college hook ups and the hotness factor.
9. Ex in the City: Smart, savvy women flock to this site for dating, sex and relationship advice, from divorce to breaking it off with ex-boyfriends to getting back in the game.
10. Understanding Men: The Relationship Doctor writes this blog “for every woman how has longed for the [r]elationship of her dreams.” Recent posts include “What Am I Doing Wrong With Men?” and “3 Things Men Can’t Resist.”
11. Oprah Relationships: Oprah isn’t just for women, but this lots of terrific resources on sex, caring for parents, understanding money and relationships, and dating.

Savvy Miss: This network includes a Dating and Love feature filled with articles and posts about bedroom manners, dating, sexual health and more.

12. Ask April: This blog is written by relationship expert April Masini, who “writes what Dear Abby never will print and what your shrink doesn’t have the guts to tell you.”

For Men

Men can turn to these guides for help pleasing their woman, navigating relationships and taking a girl out on a date.

1. All About Dating and Romance: Recent posts on this blog include “HOw to Start a Conversation with a Girl Easily” and “4 Tips to Date a Gorgeous Woman.”
2. Joe Hottie’s Dating Blog: Joe Hottie shares “the dirt on his dating life” on his Cosmopolitan-sponsored blog.
3. Ask Men Dating and Love Channel: Recent articles include “Meeting Women Online and More,” “Getting Mixed Signals,” and “How to Flatter Women.”
4. Sex Drive Daily: Wired’s blog Sex Drive Daily covers topics relating to dating, romance, erotica, education and more.
5. The Love Blog: The Love Blog is generally geared towards men, giving them tips on spoiling girlfriends, and humorous love- and sex-related posts.
6. The Men’s Place: This blog is the “place where men receive practical advice about relationship issues, parenting and life in general.”
7. Dating for Men: Recent titles on this blog include “3 Keys to Finding the One for You” and “How to Achieve Success With Women.”
8. WebMD Men’s Health: Check out the Sex and Intimacy blog and archives for posts about sexercise, penis enlargement pills, vasectomies, relationship queries, and porn.

Wedding and Marriage

From engagement quibbles to newlywed disagreements, these blogs help marriage-minded couples build up their relationships, not tear them apart.

1. Marriage Advice: This blog covers relationship topics ranging from finances to romance to sex to communication.
2. A Marriage Therapist’s Blog: Couples counselor Jay Slupesky includes therapeutic exercises, counseling tips and other great advice on his personal blog.
3. Marriage Blog: Familes.com hosts the Marriage Blog, full of relationship advice, anecdotes and more helpful resources.
4. Marriage Secrets: Discover new ways to communicate, find your own personal space and respect your spouse from the posts on this blog.
5. Marriage: About.com’s Marriage blog is written by Sheri and Bob Stritof. Recent posts include “Activities to Help Deepen Your Marriage Relationship” and “Are You Stressed in Your Marriage?”
6. Couples Support: Dr. David Sanford’s couples therapy and marriage blog includes posts on relationship skills, everyday love, communication and healing.
7. Newlyweds: Newlyweds should check out this blog to understand that little fights and arguments are normal, even in the early stages of marriage.
8. The Modern Woman’s Divorce Guide: Divorced women and women going through a divorce can turn to this blog for relationship advice for dealing with the ex, meeting new people and more.
9. Ferocious Flirting: Making Marriage Wonderful: Recent posts on this blog include “The other 364 days a year,” “Kids tell it like it is,” and “Life is romantic.” Read on for everyday tips that make marriages last.
10. Divorce Support: Couples going through a divorce can find legal and emotional advice here.

LGBT Blogs

These blogs are geared towards the LGBT community and offer up lots of smart advice.

1. Gay Dating Tips: Gay men will find dating tips and relationship advice here.
2. Lesbian Dating and Relationships: This blog posts “a variety of stories, links, tips, news and advice, all related to the world of Lesbian Dating & Relationships.”
3. Gay and Lesbian Relationship: From lesbian activism to coming out, this relationship blog covers all the news and trends in the lesbian and gay communities.
4. Gayquation: The dating service Gayquation sponsors this blog, which posts about dating books, dating tips and more.

For Teens

Teenagers and college students can access relationship advice and dating tips just for them on these blogs.

1. 17 Dating: Seventeen has quizzes, dating tips and a special Guys Talk page to give teen girls insight into the dating world.
2. GLBT Teens: The GLBT teenage community gets its own blog at About.com, thanks to writer Ellen Friedrichs.
3. The Daily Kiss: Cosmo Girl! hosts this blog, with everything from dealing with best friends to having “textmances” with your crush.
4. Your Mind: TeensHealth from KidsHealth.org uses this blog to post about teenagers’ relationships with their parents, their friends, girlfriends and boyfriends, and themselves.
5. Advice from the Love Lady: About.com’s Teen Advice blog Advice from the Love Lady helps teens deal with cheating boyfriends/girlfriends, summer romances and more.
6. Discovery Health Teen Relationships: From STDs to love and marriage questions, this “teen center” from Discovery Health covers it all.
7. Adolescent Sexuality: Dr. Karen Rayne writes about safe sex, sex education, discovering sexuality in this professional blog.
8. Go Ask Alice: This Q&A resource isn’t just for teens, but it introduces sex and relationship tips from buying a vibrator to hiding hickeys to talking to your kids about sex.
9. Teen Advice: This network of blogs and articles help teens tackle relationship questions from “surviving the first fight” to being jealous to seeing things from your partner’s point of view.

Dating

Turn to these general dating blogs for tips on building an online dating profile, working on a long distance relationship and more.

1. Bright Lights, Date City: This blog appears on the Seattle Post-Intelligencer website and includes a dating dictionary, posts about crushing, and deal breakers and dating in the big city.
2. The 15 Minute Dating Blog: Find hysterical — but realistic — dating dos and donts from this blog, which posts “true dating horror stories and tips from real people.”
3. Dating: From single parents’ dating advice to online dating questions, this blog tackles all kinds of dating issues.
4. Online Dating News Blog: Find out online dating site launches, general dating tips, online dating warnings and more.
5. Ask Lynn: Advice on Love: Lynn Harris answers questions for MSN readers about long-distance relationships, dating Mr. Wrong, and more.
6. Online Dating Insider/strong>: Learn about what’s new in the social networking and online dating circuit on this blog. Readers will also find tips and stories about dating as a single parent, creating a profile and dating software.
7. Dating Support Center: Find lots of dating tips and worthy relationship advice on this blog.
8. Interracial Dating Central Blog: Couples in interracial relationships can find unique advice here.
9. Dear Kathy’s Relationship Blog: From surviving the holidays as a single to analyzing adultery, Dear Kathy provides advice, tips and encouragement for all types of readers.
10. Direct Answers from Wayne and Tamara: Submit your love and dating questions or read others’ relationship queries to get great advice on sexual misconduct, relationship regret, arranged marriages, commitment phobia, emotional abuse and more.
11. Consum-mate: Consum-mate is a dating coach’s blog devoted to helping singles find love and have lasting, healthy relationships. Categories include dating tips and date ideas, a dating advice column, relationship quizzes, and a separate dating news blog.
12. Cupid’s Dating Blog: Cupid’s Dating Blog discusses the news and trends surrounding the modern dating world, as well as offering advice, insight and online dating connections.

Relationship Abuse

Those suffering from abuse in a relationship can find support and advice on these blogs.

1. Home Sweet Home: Home Sweet Home is “a blog about crimes within relationships.” Readers can find tips on dealing with an abusive ex, abusive parents and more.
2. Color Me Butterfly: The writer of this blog talks about her own experiences and recovery from an abusive relationship, offering advice and helpful links along the way.
3. Domestic Violence and the Workplace: Find out how to appropriately manage workplace relationships, including damaging or even abusive ones.
4. The Anger Coach Blog: If you need help controlling your anger or abusive tendencies, read this blog to healthily critique your relationship behavior.
5. Sanctuary for the Abused: This blog is a great resource for those involved in abusive relationships. Recent articles include “Getting Out,” “Repeating the Same Mistakes? Read This” and “8 Ways to Spot an Emotional Manipulator.”

Miscellaneous Advice

From sustainable love to sexual health, these blogs round out our list of the top 100.

1. Sylvia’s Long Distance Relationship Blog: In her blog, Sylvia is “helping to make long distance relationships more enjoyable and meaningful.”
2. Savage Love: Savage Love appears on TheStranger.com. Recent posts include “Lez Be Friends,” “She’s a Very Kinky Girl,” and others.
3. SexySmart: Get smart about your relationships, sexual health and dating life by reading the posts on this fun, informative blog.
4. Making Love Sustainable: Wendy Strgar’s blog rests on a green relationship philosophy in regards to keeping love sustainable. Categories include healthy sexuality, loveology, romance, and more.
5. Ask Him Ask Her: This blog is written by a couple that aims to “answer questions and help bring connection and peace” to others wanting sex and relationship advice.
6. SargeNation: SargeNation is a reader-driven site that lets users submit and rank the best dating and sex stories from blogs around the Web.
7. Safer Sex Blog: The Safer Sex Blog shares information about health studies, STD statistics and more, to spread the word about sexual health.
8. Relationship Advice for Relationship Bliss: This blog has lots of positive advice for singles and couples.
9. Relationship Advice: This blog is “your source for relationship advice.” Read on for tips on communicating, understanding your partner and more.
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By Heather Johnson

When you’re going through a dry spell, and those weeks start to become months and those months start adding up, it can start to feel like it will never end. However, there may be things you’re doing that are hindering your sex life. Making a few subtle changes can be just what you need to getting back on track to finding the satisfaction you desire. Here are some things to consider if you’re not getting any lately.

Appearance

There’s no way around it– how you look is a big part of making or breaking your chances of getting laid. Here are some ways you could be sabotaging yourself before you say a word.

1. You make a horrible first impression. First impressions count for a lot and if you’re making a bad one, it’s pretty unlikely that’s going to lead to anything good. Take care of how you look and present yourself when meeting anyone for the first time. You never know when it could lead to something more.
2. Your standards are ridiculous. If you’re not exactly the greatest catch in the world, why are you expecting to only date women or men that look like runway models? If your standards are unrealistic, you’re just setting yourself up for failure and making yourself look like a jerk in the process. Aim for people on your attractiveness level and you’ll have a much easier time sealing the deal.
3. You smell weird. This doesn’t always mean you smell like you just finished running a marathon, though if you’re not showering regularly you can probably assume this is a large part of your singledom. Slathering on too much aftershave or perfume can be just as overwhelming and can cause even the most tolerant of dates to hold their breath in your presence. Keep yourself smelling good but not like you just dipped yourself in a vat of eau de toilette.
4. You don’t take care of your appearance. You’re not going to impress many members of the opposite sex if you don’t shave, shower at at least attempt to dress like you haven’t spent the last week stranded on a desert island. You don’t have to go overboard, but make the effort to clean up before attempting to get intimate.
5. You have terrible dental hygiene. Let’s be honest, teeth are a big deal when it comes to finding someone attractive. You’ll have much more luck putting your mouth near someone else’s if it isn’t disgusting. Chew gum, brush your teeth and get regular check ups to ensure that your pearly whites stay that way.
6. You spend too much time on your appearance. On the flipside of not paying enough attention to your appearance is paying too much attention to it, at the price of your date. You don’t need to spend 4 hours prepping for a date and no one expects you to have every hair perfectly plucked. Find a happy medium and you’ll make the opposite sex happier too.
7. You’re too superficial. If you’re totally focused on your own appearance and that of others you’re setting yourself up for some superficial encounters as well. Some people thrive on having their egos stroked but others will find you and your attitude incredibly off-putting. Try to see beyond the surface and you may find yourself attracted to and sleeping with someone you never thought you would.
8. You draw attention to your flaws. Everyone has flaws and there’s not really much we can do about them. But there’s no reason to make your big nose or awkward gangliness the center of attention. If you focus on it, so will others, so play it off like you don’t even notice.
9. You draw attention to his/her flaws. It should be pretty obvious why this is a deal breaker. Even if you only make a joking passing reference to their big ears, this can destroy their confidence and maybe even make them think you’re kind of a jerk. It can also serve to make them too self-conscious to take off their clothes, which is exactly what you don’t want. Even if you’re thinking it, don’t say it.
10. You don’t like your body. It can be painfully obvious to people you meet when you don’t feel good about how you look. Self-depreciating comments and attempts to cover up every flaw will make you feel awkward and uncomfortable and won’t give you the confidence you need to make a move. Learn to accept your faults, work with what you have and love your imperfections.

Personality

Even the hottest people can drive away potential lovers by having the personality equivalent to nails on a chalkboard. Here are some tips on what not to do if you want to get to romancing.

11. You lack confidence. Most men and women will tell you that one of the things they find most attractive in potential mates in confidence. If you’re constantly putting yourself down or seem too shy to make a move, you may be putting off people who would otherwise be interested in you. Change your mindset and your attitude so that you project an air of confidence (though not arrogance) to those around you.
12. You don’t seem genuine. Few things are more off putting than someone who seems like a big old fraud. Don’t give over the top compliments or put on a show for the lady or gentleman you’re wooing. Instead, keep your cool, be yourself, and try not to act like you’re selling them something.
13. You’re a fraidy cat. No one wants to get rejected, but the fact of the matter is that it’s going to happen from time to time if you put yourself out there. Cowering in a corner and simply looking at other people in the bar isn’t going to get you in anyone’s pants except maybe your own, so stop being a wuss, get up and talk to someone. You might find that it’s much easier than you thought.
14. You’re being too nice. This is by no means an instruction to act like a total jerk and treat the women or men you’re interested in like crap. But you should recognize that there is a difference between being nice and being too nice. If you’re starting to sound a little too syrupy sweet, you may be putting out the signal that you’re a pushover and that your date can walk all over you. So be nice, but not so nice you seem like a human Care Bear.
15. Your friends aren’t helping you out. This isn’t so much about your own personality as the personalities of those you choose to surround yourself with. You may be a fine, upstanding gentleman or lady, but if you’re hanging out with a bunch of frat boy idiots, you’re likely not exactly setting yourself up for success. Choose who you go out on the prowl with carefully, and try to make sure its someone who’ll be an asset instead of a liability.
16. You’re too intense. Ever been on a date with someone who stares you down or seems dead set on professing their love for you at every available moment? Does this sound like something that would be fun? You may be an incredibly intense, tortured soul, but the interest and tolerance that most people have for this kind of attitude wears off pretty quickly and then you just become a creep. Keep the life and death discussions until at least a few dates in to avoid scaring off your dates.
17. You’re being someone else. Unless you’re a masterful con artist, chances are pretty good that you’ll come off as a little awkward and forced if you try to be someone else when meeting new people or on a date. Do yourself a favor and just be yourself. Whether it works out or not, at least you didn’t have to fake it.
18. You come across as a sleaze. Most dates will know within a few minutes of meeting you whether or not you’re genuinely interested in them or if you’re just trying to make it to home plate. Unless your date is just as sadly desperate as you, this isn’t going to go over well. Keep the sleaze factor to a minimum. This means no taking dates to strip clubs, pinching butts or very clearly trying to get them drunk.
19. You’re not honest about what you’re looking for. If you’re truly not looking for a long term relationship, don’t tell women or men that you are just to bed them. This can cause a lot of trouble later, and most people will appreciate honesty up front. Who knows, you may even find someone else who’s just looking to have a good time as well.
20. You’re an idiot. While in the long term this simply can’t be helped, in the short term you can help downplay the effects of your total cluelessness by keeping your conversations short and sweet, not saying anything rude and by employing subtle flattery. It may disguise your true identity long enough for you to score some digits or more.
21. You seem desperate. If it’s clear you’re eyeing the room like a starving animal, you may be driving all your potential prey as far away as possible. Slobbering on every available person that comes your way isn’t going to win too many hearts, minds or bodies. Relax and let things happen naturally instead.
22. You talk about exes. No new girl or guy wants to hear about your ex so shut up about it no matter how fresh it is in your memory. It makes you seem like you’re stuck on the past and not ready to move forward with them.
23. You have no sense of humor. Few people like to hang around with sourpuss types who never seem to get the joke and take life as seriously as possible. Lighten up already. You may have serious concerns about the plight of starving children in Africa, and that’s fine, but learn to take and make jokes as well to keep your date entertained.
24. You come off as a loser. Still living at home? Unemployed? Publicly shamed? Try to keep these details about yourself on the back burner at least in the short term. Once someone gets to know and like you they may be more willing to accept your imperfections and may not see them as automatic deal breakers.
25. You’re creepy. Ever seen a forty year old at a frat party? How about the types who make kissy noises to ladies who pass by? These kinds of people get labeled pretty quickly as creeps and they’re not doing themselves any favors. Act like a normal person, be reasonable with your expectations, and don’t oversexualize yourself and you will likely be fine.
26. You’re condescending. Being a know-it-all may be useful in some situations, but dating is not one of them. Acting like you have nothing to learn from your date and that you are infinitely more intelligent than they are probably isn’t going to make them throw their arms around you. No one likes an arrogant person, so cut out the condensation and try to see what your potential love has to teach you.
27. You act like a child. Kids can get away with needing help cutting their meat and throwing temper tantrums because, well, they’re kids. No one expects them to be mature. You, on the other hand, are an adult. Acting like a petulant five year old when things don’t go your way is one of the quickest ways you can drive away any interested partners. Learn to act your age, don’t whine and don’t expect your partners to mother you.
28. You have annoying habits. Perhaps you laugh loudly after everything you say or constantly tap the table. You may not even notice you’re doing these things, but your date sure will. In the superficial early stages of dating these can be real mood killers. Ask your friends if you have any annoying habits, they’re sure to have noticed, and try to reign them in around the opposite sex.
29. You’re needy. Babies, puppies and kittens are needy but totally adorable. If you’re needy, it’s completely unattractive. Most people like independent, confident individuals when looking for a mate. Your potential mate isn’t your parent and doesn’t want to have to bend over backwards to make sure your every need is met. Take care of yourself and the magic will happen on its own.
30. You come off as stupid. Maybe you are stupid but that doesn’t mean you have to sound or appear to be s